2006-10-21 23:28:15 · 20 answers · asked by me,myself and i 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Honestly, I have come to realize that if you are close enough to a person to hurt them in the most extreme way and you choose not to... then it is possible for a marriage to work.
To love someone extremely, you must also hate them extremely. It goes both ways. You don't always hate everything about them... and you don't always love everything about them... but you must be able to cross any boundary and stay together.
You must be able to endure ANY hardship... and endure any betrayel. But they must also be able to do the exact same. You must be prepared to give and receive the same amount. It's called Recipricol Love.
You must both train yourselves to step back and analyze things rationally.
You must have at least some things in common without losing your distinguishing characteristics. It is always best if you are a match in at least 50% of the expected ways - i.e: physically, mentally, monetarily, religiously, educationally. Not all of these things are required, but I would say... in order to prevent extreme hardship, you must have at least two in common. That is the best way to equalize yourself and be two independant beings in a successful and loving relationship.
BELIEVE ME... I've been a matchmaker for a LONG time. All of the couples I have put together have gotten married and had successful relationships when they didn't think it was ever possible to be with someone.
2006-10-21 23:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by got_chii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can be completely ready for marriage. You'll have to just jump in, and hope that you've prepared as much as possible.
In all truth, if you know someone, and want to get married, then do it. But prepare first. Go to premarital counseling, and talk about your expectations for the marriage.
Lastly, be flexible. If you can't to that, your marriage will not work. Just remember that you love each other, and find joy in your shared life with that person.
No one is totally ready, but if you feel you are ready for marriage, then go for it. Don't waste your life away waiting.
2006-10-22 06:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by joel k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your heart and mind are in unison for it.There are no perfect times in life, you have to step up and take charge, make a decision. There should be a real comfort between the two of you, a common ground that withstands all outside evils and influences. Make your common goal to be better persons and agree on most things. Life is about choices and changes, the rest you have to determine where you should be together. The standard wedding vows is a good place to learn.
2006-10-22 06:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made recommendation to very pretty girl once and she got married within few months. Both families were affluent and It was assumed the marriage would be successful. But the bloke showed true colour of infidelity immediately after marriage which broke up within months. You have to know the guy's background from his friends before the plunge.
Seriously I could introduce you to people I could vouch for-my own nephews if you are interested. They are very successful professionals living in Malaysia. No dowry either by either party.
2006-10-22 06:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by Manick H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the person faithful to you?
Is there chemistry?
The rest is accepting them as they are. You will have differences, and you will not always agree. You can't expect it to be easy all the time. But a key indicator is if you have gotten in a argument, and still see the love in their eyes, and you still feel the love for them. Don't confuse hurt feelings for loss of love... Feelings willl get hurt. You have to learn to comnunicate those feeling so things get worked out. Marriage is a learning experience, that takes a life time to learn.
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2006-10-22 07:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel like they are the only person with whom you are their best friend, lover, and accepts you as you are. They don't try to change you, maybe you can't have a child and they don't care. you have the same interests but also retain different ones and no jealousy. The bottom line is, do YOU accept that person as they are? Do you feel as if they are your whole world and can make you happy just by being with each other?
2006-10-22 06:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by stampinferret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first have major issues settled like who is to manage the finances and how many children you will have, if indeed you will have children. Also, don't forget the big buggaboo, who is going to take out the garbage! Settle these issues first. Have a long and happy marriage!
2006-10-22 06:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't.
just as you don't know whether you are ready to become a mother. you can prepare for it - financially and mentally, but the knowledge only comes after you are married.
marriage is a life-long learning experience - if you survive it that is. what doesnt kill you will only make you stronger, but if it kills you, then you have nothing else to worry about anyway ...
2006-10-22 06:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by peace 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you know enough to know that you love your partner unconditionally, & you are both ready to devote yourself to the welfare of the other...then you still don't know. However, when you know enough to be thoroughly terrified at the very thought... you're getting close. And when you are absolutely sure you are not ready... you're ready.
2006-10-22 06:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by therealme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't know for sure. Think about the term forsaking all others.... can you do that for the rest of your life then you are probably ready!
2006-10-22 06:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by interested_party 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋