should i terminate my exs baby and stay with my current boyfriend???????
i dunno what to do cos i dont like the idea of termination but im 17 help me
2006-10-21 23:05:13 · 14 answers · asked by sarah e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not going to tell you what to do. The final decision is yours and only yours to make.
Get the abortion if that's what you want. The people telling you not to may not fully understand your situation. From what I read, they saw the word 'termination' and instantly judged you. They shouldn't have. Yes, you should have known better at 17, but mistakes happen.
Consider this, if you're uncomfortable with the abortion idea and you don't want the child, then consider adoption instead. There are plenty of people that can't have their own kids and want to adopt one or two.
Two things to keep in mind.
1) If you want the child and your current boyfriend doesn't, the relationship is unstable from this point forward.
2) Always use protection when having sex so that this situation doesn't come up again.
Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck!!
2006-10-21 23:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a counselor or minister. If you don't like the idea of termination, you might find it hard down the road living with it if you do it. Pregnant and 17 isn't the end of the world. If the current boyfriend can't hang, be glad you see that right now. Learn to love yourself. Have a boyfriend after you get that down.
2006-10-22 06:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by Worker Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not like your ex-boyfriend anymore, but do you really want to go through with an abortion? If you don't like the idea of it, don't do it. It's not for people who will have second thoughts, or feel bad about it -- you'll only torture yourself about it later on in life if you are feeling this way now. Being 17 and having a child will be HARD, but you can give it away to a family. You don't have to keep the baby if you don't want to. Just do what you think is right and what you feel -- keyword being YOU feel you should do. YOU are the one who will have to live and deal with your decision, not your parents, not you boyfriend, and not any of us. = )
2006-10-22 06:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by xxxdarksakuraxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pro life, so my personal choice would not be to terminate your pregnancy. Something you will be greatful for no matter who the father is. This is something your current boyfriend would have to deal with. I would focus more on the baby and not so much on boyfriends right now, if your man wants to stay around......he would be a good guy, nobody should say he needs to marry you anyway. I have seen and even dated many single Moms.
Take it one step at a time.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-22 06:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Keanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a mother of two ill say maybe you should of thought of using protection before even thinking of terminated your child's life which didn't ask to be created .Be responsible i understand you are young but i was 16 when i had my first child and i accepted my responsibility and grew up .If your new boyfriend doesn't care and is willing to accept you then why even think of that a real father is a man who raises the child the the sperm donor think about like my mom told me once if you want to do adult things then assume responsibility for your actions
2006-10-22 06:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by dodgerchik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about abortion, don't! You laid down with him, so accept the responsibility for the pregnancy. It's not the babies fault. You'll have a baby regardless of who the father is, and you will still be able to move on to another man. Most men will take on the responsibility for the baby, and for god's sake, don't resort to murder, because that's what it is, at this point. Adoption is always an option. You just don't have sufficient reason to abort.
2006-10-22 06:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by persnicady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me if you go for abortion you will regret it to the end of your life. If your current boyfriend does really love you he'll understand and support you in your decision. Concerning your age - you knew what you were doing right! that time you thought that age didn't matter, so why should the little baby suffer from your decisions (even if they are wrong). Think it this way - you call it a baby, it's living creature and you want to get rid of it?
2006-10-22 06:10:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not discard the innocent unborn for your future pleasures. A sin cannot lead anywhere near to loyality which you are expecting from your boyfriend, who in turn can one day abandon you after giving you another baby. So please do not follow the path of sin may be 17 this is not the end of life. Think positive and make your boyfriend accept the GOD'S gift in your baby's shape.
2006-10-22 06:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young...i dont understand why youre sexually active...and using no protection?Now you are pregnant and confused.i think you need to sit and talk to an adult say your mom and explain your dilemma.Your new boyfriend will just make you pg again and trust me he wont understand what your going thru.Just say the word pregnant and he will be out of there so fast,
Keep your baby forget the man.Many more men will come.You cant be too sure if more babies will come.Good luck!
2006-10-22 06:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mikillah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not have an abortion. you will regret for the rest of your life. at least have the baby, then you can get it adopted. there are millions of infertile yet lovely, kind and generous couples out there who would relish the chance to love a new baby.
i think you have bigger fish to fry than which boyfriend you should stay with.
2006-10-22 06:11:29 · answer #10 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋