I know this seems like a silly thing, but I do ask, anyways. I am one who, since a very young age, has been attracted to men. I have tried everything... prayed, therapy, most things, but have failed. For some reason, women have never really done it for me and my heart has always felt more complete with a man. But I am a religious person and I know what The Bible says and I want to go to Heaven and I know this needs to stop. But it just seems so helpess, yet I try every day. But nothing. I pray, but nothing. What do I do to be happy? It's not that I'm necessarily homophobic, it's just more towards myself. I'm just in a lot of pain and find myself popping pills to numb myself to forget about this and a litany of other non-related things. Any help is appreciated. Thank You.
2006-10-21 22:53:54 · 18 answers · asked by Reginald VelJohnson 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2006-10-21 23:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Spyder 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's a way to get happy: Realize that there's other religious options out there, even amongst Christians, that accept you for who you are. Why would a "perfect being" give a creation free will, a bunch of rules, and then very strong desires contradicting those rules? The only reasons that I can think of is that your current divine either messed up, which he's not supposed to do, or is seriously out to make you suffer for all eternity, which contradicts the underlying nature of your divine in the New Testimate. There are resources out there for being a gay and christian. I recommend seeking them out, or looking into other faiths. Oh, and as far as fundamentalist Christianity goes, it's somewhat of a joke considering how many times it's been handed down and translated though flawed (human) hands with their own personal agendas.
2006-10-22 02:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a very religious person.
However when i was in school, i went to a catholic school, even though i wasnt catholic.
As a compulsory subject, we had to do religious education. In RE, we learnt about everyday things such as homosexuality from the Catholic Churchs point of view and my teacher would not exept any other excuse. It was Gods way or no way.
This then led me to think. If god doesnt want us to be gay and if god doesnt want to accept homosexuality, then why was it created? Why did he allow it to exist? This was the one thing that still, to this day annoys me.
All our lives, as kids, our parents and teachers taught us to treat everyone equaly and repectfully. I belive that If the most powerful person in the world, God, cannot do this, and completly disregard homosexuals, than why should we?
To you, i say dont give up. Feel the way you want to feel. Love who you want to love. Be the person you are and never, ever hide that from yourself. Be true to yourself. Be proud to be gay.
Take Care. I hope all works out for you.
2006-10-21 23:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by jack90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your that scared just dont act on your feelings , the relationship between 2 men is "bad" in the bible. And you want neciserally go to hell for homosexuality if you are a saved Christian and the 100 commandments are the top things that should be follwed if you break those enough you can go to hell so believe it or notstealing,killing,adultry, atc are far worse everyone sins so just believe in christ worship him till the day you die. And if you decide to have sex with a man pray for forgiveness .
2006-10-22 01:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years later, but hey for the next. First accept it. You are gay hey, I'm black. You accept that whew ok now we are over that part. Love you for all that you . Even your cravings for men as my struggle are women. My weakness, you don't even know, but hey like that fried Oreo, cheesecake and Mac and cheese we may pass up at fairs and all the other good looking, smelling, tasting things we choose not to place in or do to our body. Like the tattoos we are told we are not to get by our mothers while living in there house we have a choice. In all that. You just have to choose. Choose wisely and knowingly of your consequences to your decision. For every decision gets a result. At the end you will be the only to speak for You.
2015-09-08 19:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mercedes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Do! or do not Do! there is no Try!" Yoda, Jedi Master of Star Wars
He has a very very valid point of view when he makes this statement. Either you choose to be straight, bi or guy based on what is deep inside your heart guided by your natural impulses. That is the fact of who and what you are.
Do not try to be what you may not be, for nothing good can come of living a lie. It is more honorable and holds more power to be who and what you are honestly.
2006-10-22 07:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us have had the same problem. I strongly encourage you to find a Christian counselor who managed to go straight. And make sure they're NOT from the same church- people talk, and the last thing you need is a bunch of people giving you greif.
We all have our cross to bear, its just the nails are really painfull somedays ya know?
2006-10-21 23:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God created us all out of love. Be who you are. In a sense, I can relate to what you are saying because in intimate relatonships, I am not attracted to women either...I have also been attracted to men. (I am female, but if the norm demanded being attracted to women, I would have to live outside of the norm) This does not make a person evil or not human, my brother, it makes you the individual that you are. I know many same sex couples who are treasured friends, some are very involved in church and are the kind of Christians I aspire to be. Please quit beating yourself up. I see nothing in what you are saying that involves hating someone, being evil or any such thing. Please go on with your life and stop trying to be someone you are not. You are perfectly fine just the way you are.
2006-10-21 23:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You cannot change who you are you got to accept yourself. Over time you will accept it. Popping pills to numb yourself is not going to help matters. I think when you accept yourself you will feel proud of who you are. The lord loves you no matter what.So take care of yourself.
2006-10-21 23:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by redwagonride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m also a religious boy!!
1st, Have u ever asked God to born u as a straight??
2nd, Do u enjoy it??
come on,
That`s not a sin!! but a gift from God!! God give u a special gift that God do not give to others. enjoy it and don`t stressed!!
coz if God hate u, God have punnish you, and take away your life through accident or something else.
U can`t be a straight.... or at least it`s very hard
2006-10-21 22:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by Papilio paris 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you cannot change who you innately are, and you CAN be both religious and homosexual. my guess is you've been raised being taught that being gay is something immoral and taught to be ashamed of being who you are.
my suggestion is that you get some counseling to help you deal with who you are so that you can lead a happy life.
2006-10-22 07:49:15 · answer #11 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋