2006-10-21 20:10:40 · 38 answers · asked by icy_dayz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
youre a dick and this other person is a home wrecker..
2006-10-21 20:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Curious as to how you would feel if the tables were turned or you found out your wife was in love/lust with someone else. I hear that sometimes these things do happen and I hate it. As other people have already asked......Do you know if anything was missing from the realtionship with your wife? Have you spoken to her about anything? Are you sure that if you leave your wife, these feelings you now have for this other woman won't dissipate or fade out? Don't make any haste decisions yet. You might regret it. If you have been "out of love" with your wife for some time now, then I am not sure what to tell you. I don't know the whole story. Only you do. Is it worth marriage/couples therapy?
Good luck and keep us posted!
2006-10-22 12:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by LuvsKitty's 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should figure out what it was that you were missing from your wife to make you fall in love with this other woman. Chances are, you never even discussed anything with your wife that was wrong and if you did and nothing was done to come to a common ground then you need to end your marriage or let the mistress go. It's that simple. Either you care more about your marriage or you care more about the mistress. You have a set of ball$, use them and make a decision....
2006-10-21 20:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your wife before it's too late... meaning: before something happens between you and that other person. There is one person too many in that relationship- and it's not your wife. Confide in your wife- ask her like you would a good friend- a very good friend..... but only if nothing happened between you and that woman, yet. If you guys were already sexually intimate with each other- then that means you already made a decision-.... now follow through and file a divorce!!! Your wife deserves better. Shame on you! Poor kids.
2006-10-21 20:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you leave your wife and kids for this woman, you have a relationship built on cheating. If she did it with you, then what are the chances that she will cheat on you? And you, her? The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Take a good long look at what you have before you give it up. you fell in love with your wife for a reason. Find that reason again.
2006-10-22 06:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by IndianGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this...if she will cheat with you, she will cheat on you. then you will just be two miserable people with no family, no kids, no nothing. Cheaters never win. Marriage is a test. It takes a bit of study and hard work to pass. It depends on falling in love over and over again, only with the same person. Do you have what it takes? For the sake of your family, I hope you do. Anybody can give in to their weaker side, its easy. Its the hard stuff that makes life worth living. Its called character. Get some.
2006-10-21 21:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by melsmailboxis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some love that just can't be acted on and can't replace what we already have. Please avoid any contact with lady.
Whenever you have stress at home you mind might want to wander to good times with that lady. The thing is she needs to be in the past. You have to avoid her at all costs.
SEduce your wife.......never stop treating her like the love of your life. I can't begin to tell you the heart ache you going off with another woman will do to you, your kids and the woman you married and vowed to love, honor, trust and be faithful to her.
Can you throw tha a way for a woman who might bring u only heart ache. And the hurt just d oesn't stop with your wife and kids. it will blow the whole relitive family apart.
2006-10-21 21:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it..... it will be fun for a while. Eventually you will realize that the girl you cheated with is the kind that would cheat with a married man..... so what makes you think she will commit to you or not do it to you? You will be divorced, alone, paying child support and wishing that you could just have a wife and family like other guys. Go home and realize how many lives you would be effecting and that love means your family... not this other woman. Or as I said have a bit of fun and suffer later.
2006-10-23 07:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once you have tasted the forbidden fruit, it kinda tastes good! that is why your supposed to make your spouse your best friend, because things like this can happen. Have you not matured enough to see what's really important? work on your marriage or leave and give her a chance to find someone who will do her right. You can't have your cake and eat it to, eventually you will get caught and you will hurt your wife and kids very deeply.
2006-10-21 23:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a sacred promise to your wife & as long as she is doing her part to be a good & faithful wife,you should keep your promise to love & cherish her & keep yourself only to her!
Either you jumped too soon into marriage & kids or you are having lust pains,not love pains!
Don't hurt your children by being a doggie daddy!They are far more important than any sex you will ever have in your life!
2006-10-21 20:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by Frogmama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u cheat not only will u hurt your wife u hurt your kids and her family and your family if they like her...and then your friends find out and they will pick a side and it probably wont be yours and then...you live with the stigma of this new relationship being started while u were married to another woman..and if u and this other woman have children what are u gonna tell them how you and mommy met? if they find out what are they going to think about you? one drop in a pond causes ripples for eternity
2006-10-21 23:37:22 · answer #11 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋