she has 2 kids, one is his and they are married , she needs to get over him somehow..he is a user and she lets him cause she thinks it will bring him back into the relationship with her! she kicked him out because she caught him cheating, was outa her life for 2 yrs and now he is crawling back in...she knows he is no good...whats a good way to get her mind off him and get on with her life!!!!???
2006-10-21 19:26:16 · 14 answers · asked by Cheryl C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgive me, because ive been there done that and at no point did i take anyones elses advice.The problem is your daughter not the guy.I loser will be a loser but if you let them use you its no fault of theirs.If shes knows hes no good you should find out what keeps her tied to him.My guess, whether you believe it or not, is low self worth.She has no idea how wonderful she is and how well she could do with a man that loves her a respects her.My parents are a model couple.They are in love to this day, 28 years later.They respect each other and are very happy.I once asked my mother if my Dad cheated on her what would she do.She said she would leave him- and their marriegae is great! this is what a healthy person would do for herself and her children.Nothing you say will change her mind.She must make that decision for herself.Kinda like a drug addict.All the rehab in the world and all the interventions will not help to they say"Ive had enough."Love her and supposrt her no matter what, that is all you can do.I hope this helps love...
2006-10-21 19:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't know better & this was 3 years ago I'd swear you were my mother. Get her out to meet people. The more places she goes the more she will learn that there really are other men out & that all guys aren't jerks. Keep reminding her of how much he has hurt her children(that did it for me) & be there when she cries. Try not to down him too much(except about the kids) because the more the family downs him the more they go back.
If she does not have any single friends you take her out. Also if he is not paying child support & she loves him too much to send him to jail(been there) & you are helping her out financially STOP. Buy food & clothing for the kids if you must but my brother in law did that for me & he spent 2 nights in jail now 3 years later he still hates me.You might want to try that BUT keep in mind if he does go to jail he might be so angry that he'll forget about his kids. That happened in my case but OH well its his loss. Good luck
2006-10-21 19:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep her as busy as possible. Bring back bad memories of him. It all else fails, move to a different city or state. My friend is in the same situation and I helped her move as far away as possible. She even started college in the new town and is getting ready to accept a full time job. She realized that she is better off alone. Good luck!
2006-10-21 19:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but sadly I just have to say good luck.
Unfortunately, I unwisely did the same thing. Took the father of my baby back, after he did some horrific things to me. He was so charming and sincere about how he had changed, and how he wanted to be back in the life our me and our daughter.
My family and friends all said I was crazy for taking him back, and warned me against it saying I would only end up getting hurt again.
They were right, but I didn't listen.
He left us for the second time, and went back to his former girlfriend. And, oh how things have went sour between all of us since.
I guess sometimes we just have to learn the hard way.
2006-10-21 19:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by star22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter love him to much to get over him .she have to find away to get over him her way . she know that he no good but she keep letting him back in.she have to get tried of his stuff and move on with her life for the kids .take her out to the movie or shopping or go to the park with the kids or do something with the kids at home.play games or ride bikes .to get her mind off him. tell her that she have to focus on taking care of the kids.and leave him alone.
2006-10-21 19:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something like this usually leads to the girl getting her a*s*s whooped by the husband/boyfriend, and the girl will definitely want his *** back even more after that. Take her to a club!
2006-10-21 19:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by RYO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, you aren't gonna like this one. I think that she will continue to take his c*ap until, she finally realizes that he is no good for her or her children. You sound like you genuinely care and I wish everyone the best! Good luck.
2006-10-21 19:45:20 · answer #7 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth in the harshest way possible. make her realize how bad she has it. make her realize that he's some lazy punk. sure it will break her heart, but would you rather her have a broken heart that would mend over time or a cheating, using, fatass liar drowning your daughter in lies?
2006-10-21 19:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by somethingsovague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, whats wrong with your daughter and women in general?
why do they always go for the loser guys?
is it because they was bad boys? exciting? dangerous?
sheeesh.
i dont wanna say bad things, but u should tell her, she did this to herself. next time, she should pick a nice dude.
a nice guy.
plenty of us out there. ignored.
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2006-10-21 19:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by lushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋