Is it ok to conceal a past affair(s) from your spouse?
2006-10-21 19:17:20 · 19 answers · asked by SexyLawstudent 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope..
Only a fool tells a spouse about past affairs..
You committed the crime..
You carry the weight of it on you conscience...
Don't dump it onto your innocent spouse...
2006-10-21 19:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the affairs in question took place before u and your spouse got together then no. Past is past.
2006-10-21 19:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would u want to know? Have you built a good foundation of love that your marriage could withstand this tornado? I think everyone that told you no would say different if their spouse cheated. These dingdongs that say NEVER tell have no integrety, no morals, and will cheat again because they got away with it before. You said your wedding vowels, did you not mean them? You promised to be faithful and true to him, did you not mean it? Show some class and tell him, he deserves the TRUTH. 2 WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT
2006-10-21 20:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Im leavin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, If it's something that's not going to happen again, don't tell. If it's ongoing, don't tell and leave, don't cause your spouse any more pain then necessary.
2006-10-21 19:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by D N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't have an affair - but he has the absolute right to know so he can decide what to do.
2006-10-21 23:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened before you met your spouse why does it matter either way?
2006-10-21 21:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To reveal it would only serve to hurt the spouse,,,so I say no. Live with your guilt, they shouldn't have too.
2006-10-21 19:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by brp_13 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you had the affair prior to your relationship with him then yes. If it was when you were with him then no.
2006-10-21 19:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you want to tell? Dose he not give you enough attention? Do feel he will give you more attention if you tell, so that you don't need to cheat?
Don't tell unless you want out of your marriage..........then again you don't even have to tell then, why hurt him?
2006-10-21 19:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by pirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would be your motive for telling? this is past history, and unless it affects this relationship keep you history in the past
2006-10-21 19:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋