I broke up with my boyfriend today and he was MAD. Is that the way it's supposed to be? Shouldn't he be sad? I asked him if we could just be friends and he said "Is that the best you can do?" He was really rude about it and so I feel like I did the right thing... except I took a load of bull from him.
Should I have hung up? I want to know if I'm supposed to tell everyone everything or just leave it as something simple like, "well.. he was just immature." I broke up with him because we have extremely different religious/political views and... well I just don't like him!
Is that a good enough reason to break up with someone? Something just didn't feel right and I didn't care enough to fix it. Does that make me self-centered?
And why did he tell me I deserve for him to tell everyone that I'm a lesbian?
2006-10-21 19:12:43 · 11 answers · asked by E 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
So he's mad and he wants to retaliate. Maybe he is a little immature.
Don't dis him when asked about the breakup. Just say, " It just wasn't working out." and change the subject.
When friends tell you he is telling people you are a lesbian, just say, "Yeah, he said he was going to do that." and change the subject.
If he wants conversation and you don't want the aggravation, just tell him, " I can't talk about this right now." And end the conversation.
Treat people with respect. Respond to what they are telling you. Not react. Respond. Take a breath, think of what you want to say and say it calmly and respectfully. This teaches respect.
I can totally respect that you felt you were wasting your time with this young man and wanted to end the realtionship. Continue to do this with everyone you date. It will greatly reduce Drama. One day the right man will appear. Find your path. Create the person you want to share with just him. Give him good things. He'll be doing the same for you.
I think you did a good thing.
2006-10-22 00:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, dating isn't marriage, and if you wanted to end the relationship, more power to you. As for the part of him being an asshole, that just means you went out with a jerk. you probably need some time off, meet new guys and enjoy yourself. If he spreads rumors that you are a lesbian, that means he is a child. Just get a rebound boyfriend and let him spread rumors. If the new boyfriend is a decent guy, then he will stick up for you when the rumors start to fly, proving how much more of a jerk your ex is. But above all else, let him make the moves, don't go on the offensive. If things get really bad, stand up for yourself, but don't try to take him down just to make you look good. Though he will look worse, you would still look bad to everyone else.
2006-10-22 02:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you didn't do anything wrong to brake up this relationship. This guy sounds like he's got issues. If you are no longer attracted to someone the right thing to do is brake up.
Secondly religous and political reasons are a good reason to brake up. If you don't believe the same things your never gonna get along when it comes to that. You wanna find someone who believes what you believe kinda.
Your ex was hurt when you broke up with him and when guys are hurt they take it in different ways. Some are really sad and others get mad.
Stay away from this guy cause it sounds like he was a jerk.
2006-10-22 02:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u did the right thing u were just being honest with him telling him how u feel. not neccesarily he should be mad boys talk things in many differnt ways some or mad and some get sad, some are depressedff. You shouldn';t have let him disrespect you I would have hung up in his face that's just me
2006-10-22 09:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't even like him then there's no point in staying with him. You'll end up breaking up with him anyways. If you don't care enough to fix the problem then the relationship's doomed from the start. So yeah, I think you did the right thing.
2006-10-22 02:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by beetee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you did the right thing. If you dont like the person then you cannot force yourself to be in a relationship with them.
If he was a good friend/ boyfriedn than he would still be your friend and wouldn't bag you.
and it doesn't make you self centered it just means you were thinking what was best
2006-10-22 02:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tara M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he treated you like ****...ive been there too..and trust me, its ssoo much better in the dating scene than being stuck with a relationship that's not going anywhere...
really though dont feel bad or anything u did the complete right thing...who cares if he's mad? he'll get over it and u'll get over it...
he was wicked rude anyway and no one deserves to be treated like that...do urself a favor and lose the loser
2006-10-22 02:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are hurt they act in different way. Your boyfriend may not know how to constuctively show his emotions. The reasons you chose to break up are valid, inorder to have a relationship with those obstacles both of you would have have more maturity than he showed
2006-10-22 02:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by Heather S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if you broke up with him it was for a reason and if he was rude he didnt truly care about you i broke up with my boyfriend and instead of getting mad he cried i dated others while he always looked upset come to find out i did truly love him so were engaged but what im trying to point out is love is not anger it can be pain happiness or sadness but never anger
2006-10-22 02:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... doesn't seem like a good reason. Not every guy is gonna cry about their gf if they broke up.Either anger,or sorrow.
2006-10-22 03:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋