we live apart from each other..and the only way to communicate is by phone..
i tell her i love her..she says it too...but i think she is lying...
wat if shes not??wat is she is..??
i dont no anymore
im confused on wat to do next...i feel like noone cares about me..like noone needs me anymore,,....my heart has been scarred many a times in my past.........
2006-10-21 19:01:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen to what you're saying: You're not confident in your relationship with her; you don't get to see her; you don't trust what she's saying about the relationship; you don't know what to do.
It's pretty simple: Break up with her and focus on yourself. I don't think the problem is her, I think you have some self esteem issues to work out. "No one cares about me, no one needs me. My heart has been scarred many time in my past..." Well, do you care about yourself and love yourself? If you don't you'll never be happy in life.
I think you need professional help. You sound very unhappy and very unsure. You can't expect to have a healthy relationship with anyone until your attitude changes. Maybe your girlfriend has backed away from you because you need too much affirmation, and you need more than she can give at the moment. Maybe this is a pattern in your relationships, and you need to ask yourself "Why?"
2006-10-21 19:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw...I think that it's possible for someone to know that their bf/gf loves them, without them having sex. Don't do it if you don't feel ready. It's only gonna feel good (emotionally and physcially) if you're really comfortable and ready. If your girlfriend keeps pressuring you and making you feel bad, then I suggest you re-think your relationship with her. I never realized that guys could feel the same pressure sometimes, too...well, anyway, don't do it. Tell her you love her but there is more to love when sex comes along. It's more of a matter of your personal choice, not who you love. You can have sex with someone you don't even like, and I'm sure she knows that, but she's just really desperate for you. I understand her, and I understand you, but you guys need to understand each OTHER. Talk about it, tell her how you feel, and if that doesn't work, then what's the point? If you can't get it through her mind or her feelings, then she's losing someone very special cause there's hardly guys out there that are like you. Usually guys are the ones jumping to have sex, while the girls are more hesitant. :D I'm sure you'll do the smart thing for yourself, though...always look out for yourself, ok? :) Best wishes!!
2016-05-21 21:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have been hurt alot and I know from my own experience that once you have been hurt,it is hard to let someone else into your life. If this girl says she loves you then you need to trust that she is telling you the truth. Without trust,you have no relationship. Take it slow dude. Sounds like you need some serious soul searching yourself before committing to anyone. Take care of yourself first. then go tell this girl to her face you love her and if she loves you. YOU WILL FEEL IT. God Bless you and Good Luck.by the way,if you feel nobody cares or loves you, just so you know,God loves you.Pray and go to church and you will really feel the love. Been there Done that.
2006-10-21 19:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to meet her. Alone. N talk 2 her. Tell ur confusion. If she luvs u she will definately help u. Goodluc n Happy Diwali
2006-10-21 19:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first let me introduce myself, my name is dontavious, everyone call me deacon dee, i am a youth counselor and minister. let me tell you that my heart has been broken many times, and when i finally found someone to love me and not hurt me, it felt good. so i want to tell you to, belive that she love you. even if yall was not together she had to love you, when yall didn't know each other, she still had to love you because the bible says " love each other as God loved you. " so if she say i love you be happy that you have someone to love you. and sometimes you have to pray and ask a God to show you what to do. so don't doubt her if she say she love you she love you because if she don't she can't get to heaven. so she love you and i know that deep down in my spirit she love you and now it's up to you to accept her love.
GOD BLESS YOU,
DONTAVIOUS
2006-10-21 19:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by MR. SHY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think she is lying?Has she done or said something to make you think she doesn't love you? Is it possible that "you" don't love yourself and therefore you think no one else could love you? Maybe you could talk to your pastor or your doctor? If you can't love yourself how can you truly love another person?
2006-10-21 20:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
express your feelings to her. A relationship is about communicating right? so tell her what your telling us. And I bet your parents care about you a lot even if they don't show it. and your not alone in the world you can always e-mail me at daddys_lill_girl_07_88@yahoo.com
2006-10-21 19:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by sweet heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend a weekend together and look into her eyes and tell her you love her. Keep looking into her eyes as she says it back to you. If she really loves you, you will see it in her eyes.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-21 19:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you dont love her ther is nothing you can do about that.
if you want to find love you have to go looking for it elsewear
2006-10-21 19:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by hal j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats ur problem this is something on ur own the only thing i can say is do what feels right to u.
2006-10-21 19:39:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋