2006-10-21 18:59:02 · 20 answers · asked by anaginoz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your husband that you have grown and changed as a person. From that growth you have reassessed your needs in life. And right now, you need to be free. Tell him you respect him as a man and you appreciate him being your husband and have learned as lot from your experience being his wife, but it is time that you both move on. (insert forehead kiss here)
2006-10-21 19:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by vanity planning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not talked about it before then he has not had a chance to address the reasons you are not happy.
If you haven't already done so, give the guy a chance to make it right. Breaking up a marriage ALWAYS has complications and some can last a lifetime.
You should not even consider divorce if you haven't tried counselling.
If you have, then just sit down some day or night and look at him and softly say, "I'm sorry but this marriage is not working out well for me." That will tell him you are thinking of splitting and give him a chance to respond.
Soon after one of you will have to move out have you thought of that?
Money could get very tight because you will be paying for two rents, two utility bills.
Better think it over before you leap.
2006-10-21 19:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. Have you tried marriage counseling? How long have you been married? Have you even given him a chance? If you are truly unhappy then you should discuss this with your husband. He deserves to at least know what is on your mind. Divorce is not an easy thing to go through. Especially if one does not want it. But you need to get some help of at least discuss things with him. Good Luck and do not do anything you will regret.
2006-10-21 19:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tell him your no longer happy or in love. That you will always care for him and that you dont ever want to hurt him, but that you no longer want to be married.
Make sure this is what you truly want. It will be very painful even if you want the divorce. I hope it isnt because of someone else. Because all relationships have rough spots and time after time down the road you may miss what you let go.
Take care.
2006-10-21 19:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by galbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, there isn't an easy way.... breaking up a marriage isn't easy in the long run.... most women think it's easy but find out soon enough that having the divorce paper in hand doesn't make the bad memories or hurt feelings go away any faster.......
2006-10-21 19:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good or kind situation, so there is no best or kind way. Just sit him down and talk about it. You can't sugarcoat something like that.
2006-10-21 19:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no kind way just do it right like me i was only married 4 yrs but i was down 15 yrs and i waited till kids got old enough waited till income tax payed all bills to zero and saved enough to burn out it has been hell but now a year later it gets easier hang in there but if you are seriously unhappy you will be better with time and be glad you made the decision you WILL have times where u wonder but keep true to the decision good luck
2006-10-21 19:39:41 · answer #7 · answered by aengel69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down, and tell him plainly. Then listen through his anger and accept the blame for the demise of your marriage. Allow him time and space to mourn.
Leaving a marriage is a process
2006-10-21 19:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by alchemthis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set aside some time and a safe place to discuss how you feel and how you've come to this point....and then tell him, quietly, quickly and honestly.
Good luck, sweetie. Your freedom awaits. YOU await!
2006-10-21 20:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to be free from a man that you still want to be kind to?
did you make marriage vows that were temporary? go to counceling first. repetative adultery or verbal/physical abuse should be the only non-solvable reasons for a divorce. you must have loved him once.
2006-10-21 19:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by curious george 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋