i am married ...but unhappily for the past 6 months i have been sleepin with one of my husbands friends but not close friend basically hes just someone hes known for a long time and this guy gives me the greatest sex and he has a girlfriend but she obviously isnt makin him happy him and i are always talkin on messenger and we live same place so sometime when were on we decide to meet outside or at his vehicle and we talk joke and have sex he has his way of doing me right ..but i dont want to be pushy and i think im really starting to care about him very very much
i have never in 71/2 years cheated on my husband i think were just getting to the end he lies to me alot and has done his dirt to me everyone used to think i was a fool for staying ...please help
2006-10-21 18:50:30 · 16 answers · asked by lilrnkinn942 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make up your mind about your husband. If you love him at all, then go to marriage counseling. At least you would have tried to resolve your problems. If you're sure you're at the end of the road with him, then end it. Don't go into another situation with the new guy until you're done with your husband. Just because your husband has done you wrong in the past doesn't give you have a pass to stoop to his level.
Also, don't assume that the new guy will feel the same about you should you leave your husband. It may be the thrill of boinking his buddy's wife that he loves, not you in particular.
Honestly? I'd consider the worst-case scenario about this situation: Your husband finds out and dumps you, the new guy doesn't want to be bothered anymore because it was safer for him when you were married. If you have kids, you'll have to explain why you and their dad aren't together any more. You find out that the new guy really loves his girlfriend and will deny the whole thing if she finds out about it.
Cheating is never worth it. You wind up living a life fit for guests of Jerry Springer.
2006-10-21 19:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless how good this guy does you. YOU are still married. If you are not happy then divorce him and THEN find someone else. And if this guy can only have sex with you outside in the driveway or parking lot,then he is just using you. No matter what your husband has done,you are still married to him. So,either get some counseling and fix it,or divorce then move on. Another thing,with friends like this guy and a wife like you,I think I would not be a happy husband either with you. Stop doing what you are doing. It won't last.And this guy is not helping your relationship any either.It's Adultery and that is SO wrong and so not fair. Your Friend needs to have his butt kicked too if I might say. I was married to the same guy for 22 yrs and he was a jerk,but I never cheated on him. I finally left him. Then when I was free..I found someone else who treats me good.Do yourself a favor and back off this guy before somebody really gets hurt.
2006-10-22 02:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your marriage can be fixed, maybe not. Infidelity is hardly a death blow to a relationship if both are willing to work on it.
As for the other guy, just remeber this; if they'll do it with you, they'll do it on you.
If you end your marriage don't be so naive as to think you'll have a chance at a relationship with the other guy. A relationship is like building a house, can't be done on a faulty foundation. Your love will always be tainted. How will you tell future friends you met and got together??
2006-10-22 02:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by lmn78744 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you say your husband has done the same to you in the past, why would you justify that by cheating with another woman's man! How do you think she would feel if she found out you were sleeping with her man? The way I see it you both are dirty and you probably deserve your cheating asses. Believe me once a cheater always a cheater! End your marriage and live a blissful life, cheater with cheater.
2006-10-22 02:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Monica V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Dont cheat. Fight fire with fire doesn't work in marriage.
I think you are accusing your husband not to feel guilty about your extramarital affairs.
If he is/was cheating , tell him what you did and let him stop what he is doing.
Plus when you say "I Do" , it is for good and for bad, not only when he gives you best sex.
Sex is part of love not love.
So sweety if you are looking for great sex why not become a hooker or pornstar and stop the marriage life
2006-10-22 02:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't married, so forget the homewrecker postings.
You are married, so make a decision. If everyone else has been telling you for years that your h is scum, it's not surprising that you've woken up and realized it for yourself. Divorce is probably a good thing in your case.
Once you're divorced, you might want to date around for a bit...the first 'catch' isn't always the best.
2006-10-22 04:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,it sounds as thought you have BOTH GIVEN UP...get out......do you guys have a kid??if not get out before a kid comes into the picture....what kind of life would that give a child????
2006-10-22 01:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont continue like that, either stop cheating or get out of the relationship with your husband
2006-10-22 01:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do I always see the "men are cheating scum" threads, but you diease ridden women are always trying to justify why it is OK to cheat on the husband?
2006-10-22 01:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
great relationship. I don't think you should be with your husband anymore. But I don't expect the guy to want to be with you after either.
2006-10-22 12:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by Leila M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋