it seems that every boy i like is already attached is thiss some kind if mental disorder for example i liked my bff crush but when she stopped liking him i did to and its not just my bff its any ones bf or crush i think i need a theripist
2006-10-21 18:40:59 · 6 answers · asked by animallover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
maybe you are attracted to guys you subconsiously know you cant have, when they are available again you are no longer attracted to them. watch out, you a the type of girl marriages have broken up over. how would you feel if you were madly in love and found out your best friend had a crush on him? Betrayed, cheated on, lied to, etc....
2006-10-21 18:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by prismcat38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have a mental disorder. I used to work as a psych R.N. and I used to have a similar problem when I was younger. The thing about these boys that is attractive to you is that they are "safe". It's a subconscious thing.
If you are afraid of having a b/f for emotional reasons, your subconscious mind will only feel attracted to boys that can't be your b/f. There are a number of things you can do. What I would do is look at everything you can think about that goes with having a b/f. If it is sex (good for you), you can make a decision that you won't have sex until a certain time, age, or when you are married.
If you are afraid of being rejected, that the boy won't like you; start asking out boys that are good guys even if you arn't attracted to you. After awhile, you will no longer fear rejection as you see how many boys like you.
I hope that something I've said has helped. If those things don't help or if you don't want to wait to try out what I mentioned; I'm sure that talking to a good counselor will help you with this. They would have the opportunity to learn more about you than I can see from your question.
2006-10-21 23:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happends to two of my friends this is what happends,Okay i have 2 bff so this is how i will do this bff1 likes a guy and bff ends up liking him to this happens every time bff1 likes some1.i think it is because u want what u know u cant have.
2006-10-21 18:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a mental disorder. Don't date taken guys not matter how much U like them. It only leads to trouble. You're young. You'll find a guy you like who isn't taken...or he'll find you!
2006-10-21 18:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is like that too. i think you might be really competitive or like think he might be a good person if all these other girls like him, so you liek him too.
2006-10-21 18:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by ammmmmyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is worng with u..!!!
2006-10-21 19:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋