my boyfiends mom was in a car accident and just died today, i feel horrible because he didnt spent that much time with her because he was always with me, a persons mom is the best person i think people have and i dont know what i would do if i lost mine so i feel realy bad for him. i dont know what to say or what i can do to help him and plus i feel really sad too because its his MOM, and seeing him cry hurts me. what can i do to help him and me?
2006-10-21 18:18:58 · 11 answers · asked by flower g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be there for him. Be understanding if he doesn't feel like being around you right now. It won't be anything personal against you. He will be in shock & be going through emotions he's never dealt with before. Just tell him you're there if he needs you. Tell him you are there to just sit with him if he doesn't want to be alone & that you don't have to say a word, you can just sit in silence and be there for him.
Just tell him that you are so sorry for his loss & that you don't know what to say, that you know there's nothing you can say or do to make him feel better.
2006-10-21 18:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god. I know exactly what you mean. I was in cosmetology school and all the girls except one, hated me. I never did anything to them. If anything I did a lot for them. I was the only one that knew how to do perfect finger waves the day we learned and I always offered to help them and they would improve but never got it right. I would let them borrow my thing when they forgot something and I even took them all lunch TWICE! I was the nicest girl I could possibly be. Then they would all insult me and say I did ugly makeup when I knew I did amazing makeup (I always get compliments on my makeup from other people). They would talk smack about me behind my back and they would mock me! I would call my dad atleast twice a week so he could pik me up early. I tried being the mature one and not say anything cause I knew I was going to have to deal with them for a while. Then it got worse when my only friend there left cuz the teacher was always picking on her. Once my friend left the teacher started picking on me so everyone in that school wa against me. One day I blew up and ended up throwing a paper at the teacher and told her how stupid the school was especially cause they were teaching things wrong. I would see one thing in the state book n she would show another. Then I eventually dropped out. But FUHK THOSE *ITCHES!!! I graduated high school early and went to a makeup school and I am a makeup artist with tons of clients(: Plus have another part time job in an office. So those *itches can go suck on a fat one
2016-03-28 03:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there! Both my parents passed away a while ago. Sometimes I feel like I'm all alone in this world. But when some reaches out to me, it brings me back. Do that, be there, be a friend and a lover and understand that there will be times when there is nothing you can do. Mourning takes time. Good luck.
2006-10-21 18:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by bondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not have to feel guilty about spending lots of time with him. you did not take him away from her or anything like that. over the course of a person's life, they will go through phases where they will spend more time with their parents and phases spending less time with their parents. it is a part of growing up and becoming more independant.
it is not how much time he spent with her, it is how happy they were.
just some advice for this rough time.... sometimes it is better to just be there and listen. don't try and push advice on him or keep asking him how he is or try to get him to talk. just be there and simply listen or give him a hug when he feels like talking. lots of guys don't talk about their feelings and it is stressful when someone tries to get them to talk.
2006-10-21 18:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by katesull4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry 4his loss because they say when u lose ur mother u have lost ur bestfriend i thank god everyday4my mother i lost my dad when i was19 and people tried to console me but truth is there is nothing u can say2ease his pain just let him no u r there4him that will help him deal with such a great loss
2006-10-21 18:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost my mom when i was 16 years old. there is nothing u can say or do to make him feel better. it just takes time. and everyong has there own way of dealing with loss. just be there for him. and give him space if he needs it.
2006-10-21 18:41:35 · answer #6 · answered by JR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do except try to comfort him and remind him of the good times instead of now and maybe that will make him happier.
2006-10-21 18:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by penguin lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you care and will be supportive. That's really all you can do. And it's ok that you feel bad too - don't try to hide that from him.
2006-10-21 18:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by dede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree,stop beating yourself up cause it wasn't your fault.Go call or hug your mother and tell her how much you love her and just be there for him.
2006-10-21 18:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him and comfort him while he cries. Not much else you can do
2006-10-21 18:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋