I was with a guy who I thought was single, but turns out he is not at all. I had some sort of clues for the first few months but because we live far from each other I never really got to see the truth right away. He treated me nice and took me to a lot of places and for the most part he was there for me especially after the time my father passed away which happenned after a month after we met. A year later, he confessed and told me he is engaged. I was shocked and hurt..and I did try to forgive him. And I did. A month later, he came back and told me that he is going to leave his fiancee because he really loves me and not her. And I felt that he did, but I guess not. Then after we tried to be together, and he asked me if I could give him another chance and see if I can trust him again. I tried, but then I could trust him again..so about 3 mos later...he told me truth and that he has been married to the person he is saying that he is engaged with for 3 years now....I don't know anymore.
2006-10-21 18:08:35 · 13 answers · asked by aloha76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
corrrection....after trying to forgive him..and I tried the best i can...but I couldnt really trust him anymore.
2006-10-21 18:13:19 · update #1
I havent spoken with him after he admitted me the truth. And I don't plan to see or hear his voice again. I just don't know if I should forgive a person like him...
2006-10-21 18:16:12 · update #2
Forgive him because forgiving is a good thing to do for yourself.
Then dump him and move on because you cannot build a relationship from lies or deceptions.
2006-10-21 18:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by sueflower 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get up from your computer and walk to the bathroom. Look at the woman in the mirror and give her a quick slap across the head. Somebody is having a really hard time figuring out that they have been used big time. There is nothing to know and nothing to figure out. You have fallen in love with a loser who was cheating on his wife with you and lying so that you would put up with his sorry butt. Change your locks or better yet move and change your phone number because you really don't want him even if he dumps his wife. The poor lady probably doesn't have a clue you exist. How many kids does he have that he hasn't told you about?
2006-10-22 01:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one know our heart like we do. I'm shock that you even have to ask the question. someone that you loved share the most precious things with , you find out that he marry. wow in he should be giving credit that he told you, i say hell no , if he real man he wouldn't never had done it. how could he play with you. use you as he please i guess deep down he see that you are needed. no hard feeling but if there was a self respect thing you would had open the door in said see you don't want to be you. to forgive is fine to hold on is a fool
2006-10-22 01:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by elisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what? I hope the only thing you don't know is how you should break it off with him. He's a liar in the worst kind of way. What if he did break up with her and get with you? What then? You wait around to see how long it takes for him to drop you for the next woman? This man is no good. How could you even consider continuing things with him? Do you feel as if there's no one out there better for you? If that's the case, I can assure you that 'most' people out there are better for you than him. I know you care for him and it's hard to turn that off so quickly, but you should also care for yourself and do what's best and right for you.
2006-10-22 01:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell No
He has lied Multiple Times what makes u think hes Goin to start telling u the Truth NOW!
2006-10-22 01:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by The Messiah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk.....run!
This guy sounds like a disloyal, cheating, wants-his-cake-and-eat-it, playing WANKER.
You deserve better and so does his wife. How many times do you need to be used and hurt before it makes you wake up to the fact that he is a philanderer. I personally couldn't repsect anyone who had so little respect for the constitution of marriage....or the feelings of another.
Good luck - call it quits, change your phone number and you'll get over him.
2006-10-22 01:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
come on now, if he's lied to u more than once he's probably still lying to u. leave that person alone. you are better off on ur own comparied to staying with that idiot. be smart, being with someone doesnt always mean youll be happy.
but bottom line he's a dirty bag. find somethin better everyone can.
2006-10-22 01:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him for what? Treating you like trash,lying to your face,cheating on his future wife?When your sick of being the fool,move on.
2006-10-22 01:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seemed like he has lied to you badly.......I don't think you need to have second thoughts leaving him....... You will surely find a better man. :) cool off its not the end of the world.
2006-10-22 01:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by untamed_heart 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him and forget him. Don't trust him, don't invest time or love in him. He's dog squeeze....
2006-10-22 01:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋