Are there any tell tell signs, are there women out there who are really willing to go through 9months of pain and stress and not being married just to keep a man around or to use him for his money?
2006-10-21 18:08:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, there are lots of women out there who do that. I've known quite a few. A couple signs are, if you have a great job & she doesn't, she wants to have sex a lot & not use birth control, and then once she gets pg she's not interested in sex anymore. She's knows she's got you. Whether you marry her or not, she'll get a check from you every month for 18 or 21 years depending on the law where you live.
2006-10-21 18:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were the one that just posted the question about your 7 month pregnant girlfriend!
It sounds like you are just looking for a reason to dump your girlfriend because you can't hack the responsibility it takes to be a real man and be there for her and your child!
The majority of women are not out to trap you to get your money. Pregnancy is hard and painful and I have NEVER met a woman who has tried to trap a guy by getting pregnant. You watch too much tv if you think this happens.
I'm betting you will get a lot of guys online that will tell you to run for the hills if your girlfriend gets pregnant. Those types of guys are immature, selfish and it is a miracle that any woman would ever want them.
Don't make a mistake that you will regret the rest of your life. Don't abandon your girlfriend and baby. She will never forgive you if you do and you can pretty much forget about ever seeing your child if you do this to her when she needs you the most!
By the way, if you DO abandon her, she can always come after you for child support which you will pay until the child turns 18.
If you love her, stop this nonsense and go pay attention to your girlfriend. Give her that ring and grow up!
2006-10-22 01:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by prettycoloredrocks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there are women that are willing to go to great lenghts to keep a man that they are infatuated or in love with. Many things cause a women to become infatuated (lust) or in love with a man - including money, social standing, power, looks, attitude, and connections amongst others. My sister is a woman that would (in my opinion) have a child to hang onto a man with the right qualities. In her case he would have to be good looking and wealthy.
If you suspect your girlfriend to be pregnant. My advice is to get up the courage to ask her point blank. If it turns out that she is, then you should be there to support her with whatever decision she makes. Remember (as you put it) she will be "going through 9 months of pain and stress" so it will be her decision to carry the baby to term or to have an abortion. You will need to remain strong. Even if you do not continue the relationship with this woman; if she has your child, you will have a new life long relationship with your child.
2006-10-22 01:29:20 · answer #3 · answered by steinmancloud9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believed when I got pregnant with my first child that it would save my crap relationship. I didn't get pregnant on the sly, my partner at the time knew i wasn't on birth control. But how stupid was I at 21, I finally came to realise at 10 weeks pregnant and single just to let him go. He had found himself someone else and waited till after I was pregnant to say well that's it, I'm leaving.
I am happier now with out him, im married with 3 children. I wouldn't change having my oldest daughter for anything, just wish that i hadn't been so stupid to think it would fix the relationship.
I realise there are women out there getting pregnant to keep a man, get money what ever. But they have to realise the man doesn't have to stay and then the child misses out.
2006-10-22 05:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by lividuva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you must not date much if you don't know this answer. HECK yes some women do that!!! Probably more than anyone really can know.
Sometimes woman would do anything to keep a man around. Just use a condom if you don't want to be a daddy, and don't let the women keep them for you, or else you might have condoms with nice needle pokes through them. (oh, i wouldn't leave the used ones there either, you know, cover your bases)
Good luck! and find a good woman!
2006-10-22 01:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by 3rdtimesacharm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a "friend" when I was younger that literally had ONE piece of paper from a hospital emergency room which read she WAS pregnant. EACH time she met a guy she liked, she whited out the name, and date, and retyped the new guy in. This is after 11 abortions! I was sooooooooooo shocked a human could even think of this. Either the guy was willing to stay with her, or they paid for an abortion. She finally did find a guy to "sort of" stick around. After 4 kids. NO marriage tho. You'll know in your gut, when it's right, until then, take your time, and for gosh sake-PROTECT YOURSELF!!
2006-10-22 01:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know but if you abstain from sex out of marriage or use protection you shouldn't have to worry about a women using a baby to try to keep you. Anyway it probably doesn't work most of the time since men who aren't interested in being fathers won't stay just because some girl had their baby.
2006-10-22 01:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, there are alot of women who does that. But you wouldn't have to worry about it if you used protection, now would you?
Tell, tell sign is if she pushes everytime you have sex, to not wear a condom. She's not doing it because it feels good. She's doing it because she wants to get pregnant. Never trust a woman that says she's on the pill and you don't watch her take it everyday. Women are vicious, coniving, thoughtless creatures. I know my girlfriends one
Strap up partner
2006-10-22 01:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by datcreekgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to answer this like it's relating to you..
If you aren't sure about if she's with you for your money or to keep you around then I'm almost guessing you haven't been together long and if you haven't been then good job on getting her pregnant! Maybe use protection next time if you really don't know who you're dealing with and why.
2006-10-22 01:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kaykoura 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have read all your past questions, and i don't think your girlfriend is using the pregnancy to trap you down.....She probably needs to feel secure about the relationship, is my guess....I think you should ask her to marry you....and if she says yes,..have a little family party..and announce it...Maybe shell feel better about your relationship then and feel like she fits in more with your family...Plus yes, hormones are flying. Good luck, see how she reacts after that, you can always break off the engagement if it doesn't work...get married after you have the baby....
2006-10-22 01:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋