Why is is so hard?

Question

for me to break up with my long-time girlfriend. I love her to death but she does things that I can't stand. We always fight and we have different opinions on so many different things

Answer 1

instead of breaking up with her since you apparently dont want to, you should have a mature sit down talk and tell her everything thats on your heart and mind and give her a chance to say whatever and let her know what you're thinking and you'll feel much better, you jsut have to be a man and mature to be able to do this

Answer 2

If you really do love her to death, maybe these are just things you have to change your perspective on. My husband and I are polar opposites. We are fundamentally different in our attitudes, beliefs, opinions, etc. We had to decide that we are going to agree to disagree on many issues. At times it really felt like these things would make or break us. We had to make a conscious effort to not allow these differences to come between us. Once I changed my outlook and decided to not sweat the small stuff, the things that used to enrage me about him, didn't matter so much anymore. Sometimes the things that make you really angry really aren't a big deal at all when you look at the larger picture. I would become really irritated with stupid little things that all added up to one big feeling of spite. We had enough love between us to make an effort and make it work. Now when we feel those problems coming on we say, "Is this going to break us? If not, then just shut up, quit arguing and gimme a kiss."

Answer 3

Think of all the negative things and let go of the fact that yoou have grown comfortable in putting up with all of your differences. Life is too short to waste it in a relationship where you must struggle all the time. Besides, if things are as bad as you say they are you may wake up one day to find that she will make the choice to leave before you do. Good luck and im sure you will make the right choice

Answer 4

It's hard because you're coming to realize that the path you thought you were headed down in life is the wrong one and now you have to make a turn that you weren't planning on. It'll hurt, for a bit, but it sounds like you two are butting heads more than coming together.

Answer 5

My ex-husband and I put off seperating because we got along so well but there was no love there. With you it sounds like there's "old slipper syndrome" there but no love, and you don't get along well.

Figure out if it's worth trying to continue it. If not, end it. It's not fair to either of you if you just drag it on and an.

Meanwhile, it sounds like there's things about her you'd like to change. Is there anything you can do to change the situation?

Answer 6

it's not hard. make a list of pros and cons (what's good about her and what's bad about her) then see what side has more. if the bad side has more, dump her. she might be taking advavntage of you, or cheating. if the good side has more, then you should talk to her. tell her how you really feel. but go with whatever your heart says. your heart might give you the wrong directions but at least you had some trust. and accomplish a strong goal.

Answer 7

its hard just because u have been with her for so long...but if u love her maybe u should try to make things work....talk to her about how u feel....and tell her that if she wants to be with u u have to change some things and hopefully she will help u with it....good luck

Answer 8

love is the best and worst thing dont try to understand 8 just enjoy 8 ....which u the best

Answer 9

Do it quickly and then get her out of your life as much as possible. Resist the temptation to have contact with her.

Answer 10

i know how u feel. im with a woman who i fell in love with but im tired of her stupid mood swings, using sex as a weapon and trying to control me.