me and my boyfriend have been going out for a long time now we love each other very much, and have really good days.. hes really sweet as i amn to him.. but theres these times... that i think that he doesnt care.. like he does really little thigns.. and i feel bad like he doesnt love me anymore.. i know he does deep down inside.. but anything he does thats a tiny bit fwrong i confront him and it always turns into.. well you do this sometiems blahblah blah.. well its always comparing.. but some thigns i know i wouldnt do.. i dont know i really dont think i have a right to be mad at him for these little things like.. just really really little going upstairs with my firned ( a girl) to get a guitar or something ..while im there and im downstairs ...just thinking oh god he hates me :\ if he cared hed be like come to.. i think he expected me to follow thouh i dont know i just dont think he realizes ... but i get upset anyways and it makes him upset.. i dont recall me doing things like that
2006-10-21 17:52:20 · 6 answers · asked by somethingcorporate<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but theres things that bugg him too i guess? they dont come up though unless i complain about something ... this is tearing us a[art and hurting us both .. i dont want these things to bug me.. but im jealous cause he has lots of firned that are girls.. help me ceom over my expecting too much for him and jealous plz ! :| i need advise.. i love him.. and he loves me
2006-10-21 17:53:46 · update #1
sounds like a very young couple and not seeing much towards your future together if you can't exsist together any better than that. now think of these words anytime you want to complain on the lil' things , that don't really matter.
2006-10-21 17:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your story touched me and I have to explain why. You've opened my eyes to something I wanted to ignore about myself. I have suffered from the "he doesn't love me's" my whole life. I am never able to tell if a guy really loves me or if he's just using me because every time a guy would do something, even the slightest little thing, I would immediately go into "he doesn't love me" mode.
Now that I'm older, I'm able to recognize this behavior a lot more and now I realize how incredibly destructive and energy-wasting this can be.
But the problem is, if you feel hurt by something he does, how do you turn it off?
Maybe we can both change. Maybe the next time our guy(s) do something that triggers us, we can stop, examine exactly what happened and look at it like a third party would. Not like a touchy girlfriend would. Let's try to make sure of the difference between a guy being a meathead and being an actual jerk on purpose. I would bet, unless he's a real jerk, they're just meatheads when we start doubting them. There is something in our subconscious that keeps us doing this and unless we make serious efforts to change it, it will consume us and disable our relationships. Good luck. (Sorry I didnt mean for this to be so long)
2006-10-22 01:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey if he loved you really he would not allow these girls to come between you. If you loved and trusted him you would not allow these girls that are friends to come between you. One you have trust issues from a past relationship or perhaps in your heart you know you cant trust him or perhaps you know if it was you upstairs with a guy friend you might not be so trustworthy. Sometimes what we perceive as love is really just a fear of being alone. These issues should not be issues if you both truly loved each other. It is OK to be a little jealous but to the extent that it is a major interference with a healthy relationship suggest it is a relationship that should end. Trust your womanly intuition. We as women don't do that enough but it is often your best friend. If you are religious pray on it and see where it goes. If he gets very angry when you confront him on this issue then probably there is something going on. Either way value yourself and your feelings. Don't make excuses for how you feel there is probably some merit to those feelings.
2006-10-22 01:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by ann m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get so busy over who has the most friends? That seems like a waste. Somebody always going to have more whatever than you--- why waste time and effort over it?
Go over the annoying parts in your mind, and really think it over.
He's not the only man around!
2006-10-22 00:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats crazy, why r u making problems from those little things, its not worth it, just let those little things go away if u see them. u overreacting.....he cares but just dont make big problems from little things....
2006-10-22 01:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he goes upstairs with another female you better take your butt with him....You should be with him at all times if there is another female involved...
2006-10-22 01:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anastacia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋