I work with this amazing woman. It sounds corny, but she literally could be the woman of my dreams. The catch? She's married! Under normal circumstances, I'd run away fast, but we share so many common things, so many common ideals, that it's extremely difficult not thinking about her. She also sends out certain signals that tells me she's interested even though she's married (not happily, by the way). If she was single, I'd already know what to do, but I'm treading with the utmost caution because she is married and she's a coworker. What should I do?
2006-10-21 17:48:05 · 12 answers · asked by Butter Bean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
STAY AWAY. You do not want to be with a woman who would cheat on her husband, even if she's cheating with the wonderful you. Guess what? She probably loved her husband once upon a time, yet look at her now. If she comes on to you, tell her you cannot be with her because she is married. If she leaves her husband, that is a different story - but STAY AWAY even if she says she "will" leave him "soon." If she will leave him "soon," then you can be with her "soon" and not "now."
2006-10-21 17:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound "corny". More like crazy! You should continue to "tread with the utmost caution" because she is not single. She is a married woman so try that for a "common ideal". So, catch yourself and get your head screwed back on your shoulders. Return from your dream world and get back to reality- pronto! Her marital discord is none of your concern.
Go find a single woman who would be interested in you cause you are flirting with a dangerous situation. Office gossip spreads like wildfire so your potential affair would soon blow up in both your faces. This "woman of your dreams" will make your life a living nightmare so it would be best for you to "run away fast"
2006-10-21 23:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry in advance for how horrible this may make you feel. She is most likely using you to make herself feel good. You say she could be the woman of your dreams, so I guess you know her fairly well. If you know her that well, she would probably tell you if she was actively try to leave her unhappy marriage. If she isn't saying that, she isn't ready to go. She IS ready to have a great guy tell her that she is worthy of attention, and maybe a little flirting that makes her feel desirable. She is in a holding pattern, and wants someone to make her feel better while she drags her feet. You are a fab guy and she wants to keep you around, just in case. Of course this is all speculation on my part, but I know about this situation, in an opposite way. My advice? Go be the awesome Guy you are around some single girls. Married ladies are too much to deal with. If you want to be her friend go for it. Until she is divorced, she is not right for you.
2016-03-28 03:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about the consequences. She is married. If anything were to happen, it is probably only going to be a fling which would just hurt you. If it ends up more than a fling, you are in the middle of breaking up a family. Would you want to be the other guy? I think but if she is still with her husband you should leave her be.
2006-10-21 17:54:17 · answer #4 · answered by MightyManMichael 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Caution to the wind! Jump in there. You won't always find a soulmate in the singles bar. Sometimes you have to strip her away from her bad experience to free her. Then on the other hand, I have never known a woman that cheated on her husband to stop cheating with her new husband. So be ready to deal with her finding another soul mate later on while she is unhappily married to you.
2006-10-21 17:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run... and don't look back. Nothing good will ever come of a cheating relationship. If she is interested in you then she will have to decide if she wants to get a diviorce before proceeding with your relationship. Wait for the DIVORCE and then see how things work out. But for now, you should not do anything.... the ball is in her court!
2006-10-21 17:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by ru.barbie2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt do n e thing...shes married put urself in her husbands shoes? would u like to b married ot her and another guy goes after and she falls for him n cheats on him (you) i would leave her be..shes already takin theres wayy to many girls in the world...too many ppl divorcing..just leave the woman be. besides shes a co worker in the long run it can cause problems with your job.
2006-10-21 17:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by SomeOne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no - don't get too far with this. It can mean plenty trouble for you, eventually. The coworker part is NOT the problem - it's her spouse who may even kill you if he finds out.
2006-10-21 17:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really like her, keep on talking to her. then she'll know that
she can trust you. and if she gets divorce, then don't try to catch on so fast. give her some time (nicely) and talk to her about problems. sooner or later, she's gonna feel the same way about
you
2006-10-21 18:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tim M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your probably going to break down to her at some point. Believe me...its not worth it! Just let it ride....
2006-10-21 17:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋