Okay so i'm going out with this guy i really like.. but i quickly realized i dont think he likes me i think he likes my best friend.
Well as it turns out she likes him to, but i dont know what to do i mean should i let her have him or what? and is it rude of her to even like him, because arent best friends boyfriends off limits?
2006-10-21 17:43:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Maybe it's time to move on...Or inform them that.."Hello..it's Me!! Ya know, the best friend..the girlfriend....My feelings are getting hurt by playing involuntary CUPID!!" You could just move on and maintain a friendship..But you must do what it takes to save your heart from pain...
2006-10-21 18:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are in any position to "let" her have him. They will find some way to be together if they really care about each other. Just quietly get out of the relationship, and if you value the friendship of your best friend, hook them up and find someone else. You will be less hurt this way and will keep your best friend. Besides, a person cannot really help it if they become attracted to someone and fall in love with them. So do not think of her as "rude," trust me, she didn`t plan for this to happen. She is probably trying to figure out what to do without hurting you. You ask the question" aren`t boyfriends off limits?" Well yes they are. Has she been putting the moves on him right in front of you? Try to be a little mature about this and move on to a guy that will like you as much as you like him. I know this really hurts that this happened since you really like him. This is not a situation that you can control. Good Luck
2006-10-22 01:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, thats not your best friend anymore. Second, thats not your boyfriend anymore. I have been through the same issues and I had to learn the hard way. Now, this might be difficult but it will work for the future.Have a talk with both of them at once so it will be no misunderstanding, be honest with them about your feelings and for them to be honest as well. If your "best friend" hesitates about anything you ask then let her go, and forget about him because he is only one fish in the sea unless he is special and from you it doesn t seem he is. You can t have a friend that is interested in your boyfriend there is too much conflict. Its easy for me to say because I m not you, but I do know that we have to make hard decisions in life and live with them. If you continue and they start messing around with one another do you think that you would know? NO. Save yourself from drama because you still have to deal with life.
2006-10-22 01:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by jwoods310 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you have already realized that he likes your best friend instead of you then let him go. As for the aren't best friends boyfriends off limits questions---It just depends on your friends. Just because you believe this doesn't mean they do, sorry.
2006-10-22 00:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by ktpt 4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.... if you don't think he really likes you, why would you want to stay with him? Why would you want to stay with someone you know likes someone better than you?
I'd let them be together and find someone I was SURE liked me as much as I liked them!
I've been in this situation before and though its hard to be open-minded, people can't choose who they are attracted to.
There is also a good chance that you are completely wrong and just paranoid on them having feelings for each other.
If you aren't paranoid, then try to imagine yourself as a catalyst. Try to imagine that you were meant to be there for them to meet. That you are a fairy god-mother of sorts. They may come to view you the same way and you might get 2 great friends out of it and not just the one.
2006-10-22 00:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa Me 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How serious is your relationship really? A few movie dates? Burgers and a Coke? Or are you acting like grown-ups (to put it nicely)?
If ya'll are just hanging out at the Dairy Queen, then possibly he's using you to get to your friend (if he does like her that way). Both you and your friend are better off without him.
However, if you're just hanging, he may not think it's a real boyfriend-girlfriend thing and keeping options open. Not knowing you think it's a real deal. Enlighten him and tell your friend to back off. If she's really your friend, she will do it. Your friend may not even know she's causing a problem.
If ya'll have, uh...you know..., and he likes your friend that way...you both are better off without him. He's a player just making points.
2006-10-22 00:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there is an obvious chemistry between them(and im guessing there is because you picked up on it),then you should let them explore it and not be upset about it.You cant fight chemistry,and would you really want to be with someone who likes someone else more anyway??
2006-10-22 00:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by tyler d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it kinda sucks cuz shes ur "best friend"......but u have to be realistic girl....is he doesn't really like u and he likes ur friend well u should leave them both alone....i think is the best thing to do...besides is u get with him he might see her the same way and probably cheat on u...u never know what to expect.....make the right decision and talk to them...wish u luck!
2006-10-22 00:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by la chiniz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to let them make their own choices, If you know that they like each other than let him go and maybe she will let him go too for your friendship.
2006-10-22 00:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
believe me u don't need to have this kind of boyfriend ,he is not worth liking so don't worry let ur friend have him if she thinks it's right to have him.he needs to be mature before being in any relation caz what i think he is just enjoying two girls company otherwise no serious boyfriend like to have anybody between two of u .
2006-10-22 00:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by prav m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋