Everything was all good up until she got pregnant, now i don't even know what to think I love her, but she treats me like **** now thats shes pregnant, when I come see her she acts she doesn't want me to be around,when I'm not there she is blowin up my phone askin when i'm comin to see her all emotional and never wants to get off the phone, when I spend the night she tells me i'm a bed hog all of a sudden (which was never a problem before) but when i don't spend the night she get all sad and mad like its was a problem that i didn't, she doesn't even like to kiss me or hug me anymore, let alone have sex (I don't ask her or pressure her about it), but we talk about getting married and she is always talkin about what our new life is gonna be like when we move in together and she is my wife, she makes me lunch and cooks for me but thats about it, I like to do stuff for her but sometimes she makes me feel as if she is using me now, I don't know what to do I'm so confused somebody help
2006-10-21 17:43:11 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sometimes when i come see her she acts like i'm not even there, and will talk to everyone but me, and it seems like sometimes she tries to avoid any contact with me
2006-10-21 17:44:43 · update #1
I have even went out and bought the engagement ring but haven't given it to her yet
2006-10-21 17:46:00 · update #2
Its been like this through the whole pregnancy she is almost 7 months
2006-10-21 17:46:37 · update #3
I know about the hormones but this seems crazy its like she cussin me out one minute and the next she talkin about bein with me forever
2006-10-21 17:50:13 · update #4
Pregnany hormones make women act crazy. I know this because I have been guilty of some of the things you mentioned.
Don't get upset, it's not about you. You need to realize that she is very uncomfortable, achy, tired, etc...etc.. She will return back to the girl you used to know after the baby is born.
When a pregnant woman says "get away from me" she doesn't mean leave! What she really means is "I'm miserable and I just want you to back up a little and be there for me without smothering me."
I'm not sure how old you are, but I am concerned that maybe you aren't mature enough to handle having a child or even to get married. You need to get some books on pregnancy, learn about what the woman goes through, and stop thinking that everything is about YOU. She is working hard to carry your child, be grateful and take care of her, even if she seems like she doesn't appreciate it. She DOES appreciate it, but you can't be expecting praise every second of the day when she is in pain or under the influence of hormones.
2006-10-21 17:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoloredrocks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, she is 7 months along, she probably tells you you're a bed hog because she's getting bigger and needs more room. Its her weird way of saying hunny my belly is big, scoot over gimmee some room, but tell me that you love me and that I'm beautfiful/. Depednding on how old she is and where her maturity level is she may even be a bit resentful about the pregnancy and towards you as well. Not that she doesnt want the baby, but maybe shes start to feel big, and tired and just wants the lil sucker out of her. That makes any pregnant woman cranky. I know it did with me.
Also, being a stay at home mom, cooking cleaning, doing the laundry, raising the baby let alone all the feedings and stuff, ISNT using you. good god I am pregnant with number two and my hubby everyday lets me know how much he appreciates what I do and how it helps him out.
In the last few months some women lose their sex drive and want to be touched... its not you, its the haromones, maybe she worries about its affect on the baby now that its kicking more, maybe shes scared about the labor. Eiether way, you should sit down, have aheart to heart. LISTEN to what she says. dont interrupt, what are her reason for being the way she is and how can you help her?
and give her the ring. and make more of a commitment. You should be living with her in 3 months. You cant expect her to be at home alone with the baby while you live somewhere els eand can do what you want. It isnt fair.
and also let her know how you are going to be able to provide for her and your child. She may have started to push you away if she thinks that "omg what have i done? He cant handle this," let her know what you are willing to do!
big hugs
2006-10-22 00:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the hormones, but just wait. Once the baby is born, it changes everything anyways. You will not be the most important person in her life. She'll be distracted, depressed, etc. Maybe she's disappointed that you guys got pregnant BEFORE you guys got married. Maybe life isn't turning out to be as she expected and she's bummed and taking it out on you. She probably wanted that white wedding, a white picket fence and then the 2 kids. Talk it out with her and try not to take all the emotions personally. Just let her rant and rave and just be supportive. Don't take it as she's using you. Just keep being there for her without stressing her out. She probably feels like crap being pregnant. I know I did. Wait it out and then just love her and your new kid. Kids are a wonderful blessing.
2006-10-22 00:56:47 · answer #3 · answered by Fartbuster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So here's the scoop, I'm pregnant as well now and SUPER emotional, lol, my husband does great at putting up with me, I don't know how he does it, with my emotions I get mad over the smallest of things, and end up sounding like a complete a**, after getting all worked up I sit around and cry because I feel so horrible that I get mad and yell, you just have to be understanding and comfort her, help her out a lot, my husband is good about it and I'm sure you are too, sometimes we just vent and you guys unfortunately are the first people we see...Sorry
2006-10-22 01:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by snsheley0415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well knowing from experience its hormones. pregnant women want to be close to the person the love but are mad because they blame the man for getting them pregnant in the first place. this most commonly happens in unplanned pregnancies and when the two people are not married. and the engagement ring thing- make sure its what you really want and that your not doing it just to make her happy. and if it is what you really want than maybe you should wait till shes in a good mood to ask her.
2006-10-22 00:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by cuttigurl013 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha first off id like to welcome you to the world of pregnant women. Most women usually cant stand being around their boyfriends whenever they are pregnant. There is a huge chemical imbalance in her which makes her have these mood swings. Go check out this site it talks about this kind of thing. And dont worry your not alone. Almost all men go through this when their women is pregnant. lol So congrads on being a dad. And good luck! Being a parent is the best thing in the world.
2006-10-22 00:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you got her pregnant and she didnt want to be. Now she feels like shes stuck with you, and her life is going to completely change while you just carry on like always. I'd be annoyed too! But you sound like a good guy, so if you care about her try to stick it out and hope it gets better. I'd seriously question whether she loves you though, to me it sounds like she doesn't, only when it suits her. Good luck, I hope things work out well, not only for you both but for the little baby that will be stuck in the middle.
2006-10-22 01:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something the two of you need to sit down and talk about. No offense intended to anyone but women do tend to get moody and chances are she may blame you for her being pregnant. How does she feel about having the baby? Is she worried about it? Does she have any misgivings or fears? My advice is to be as supportive as you can and help her through it. The rest is between the two of you
2006-10-22 00:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are talking about. After my wife got pregnant she transformed into a horrible person. A lot of hormones and body changes make women miserable during prenancy. Just hang on and do your best to make her comfortable in her very uncomfortable state. Don't worry about the sex, it will come--especially after you've shown her what a good companion you can be. Just be patient, keep your cool, hang in there and everything will be fine.
2006-10-22 00:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by andromega 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy causes hormones to go crazy and makes a woman moody, just hang in there it will get better. I was always in a bad mood and ever thing made me mad in the beginning of my pregnancy. As I get further in pregnancy I am less moody, I am 20 weeks. God luck and try and hang in there.
2006-10-22 00:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sakora 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋