Why is it that the good guys that soley respect women are so stinkin rare???

Question

It seems like one in a billion guys don't rape or abuse women, they respect their space and don't harass them. Or maybe it's just Nebraska. But why is it so rare? People tell me there are lots of guys who are nice. Bull! Everywhere I look there's some guy cheating on his gf or wife, or raping a woman or molesting a kid or beating a woman and treating her like a slave. (happens to my friends and on here, on the media ect....)

I have two friends very close friends that have those rare nice guys though they're married and they're good friends to have.

BUT WHY SO RARE?

Sorry dumb question.

I won't believe you if you say there are lots of nice guys out there. Unless you say I am in a bad state. Tell me which state that has those nice guys.

OH by the way those nice guys those rare nice guys aren't from Nebraska lol

Even in church there are dirty men. Is it just Nebraska?

Answer 1

It is the same here in Texas & in every other state i have talked to women or men in.
It is a sign of the times!Evil is taking over & all men think about is their own pleasures,mostly sex & all manner of filthiness.Lovers of themselves more than God.
I have been divorced for over 14yrs & mabey one out of every 40 men I talk to is respectful & doesn't ask sex questions or start out with googly eyes on the boobs or crotch area.
I meet nice men,but they are always too far away or too poor to travel or relocate or are tied up with jobs they can't leave.
Blame sin.It is the God most worship now.

Answer 2

Most guys start out that way then they get involved in a divorce. Everything gets split 50 50.

She gets the house, he gets the house payments.
She gets the car, he gets the car payments.
She gets the uranium stock, he gets the shaft.

After experiencing one of these and having direct contact with a thousand others, some guys just get a bit gun shy.

BTW, do you have any idea what your life would be like if only 1 in a billion men didn't rape you. You wouldn't have time to fill out the crime reports.

I can tell you this. I know three women who could survive in this world with out a vagina. I'm certain there are others but most women I have met are very interested in a Mrs. Degree. She wants some guy to work himself to death so she can collect the life insurance and go on a cruise, where she will undoubtedly loose 100 to 150 pounds. Have you heard that women don't get ulcers, they are carriers?

Now, if you will put your wide paint brush away and I will do like wise. Just how old are you and how many times have you been raped? Have they all been reported or were they consensual until the next morning? I'm sorry but I think you are painting a lot of men unfairly.

And while a bit severe, there is always a monastery. If you choose the right one you could probably live the rest of your life without ever seeing another man.

Good luck and I am sorry for what ever experience has caused you this anger. I hope the anger is in line with the experience because you are damaging yourself far more than whom ever hurt you.

Answer 3

It's everywhere that there are both nice and the typical assholes, depends upon WHERE you're lookin at. If you hang around the wrong spots, in ANY place, then don't expect to see the unthinkable, as they say look in trash gonna find trash. Unfortunately even the most remotely obvious places where a nice guy would typically be you'll find some kind of asshole not far behind. But honey it works both ways. There are probably JUST as many bad girls as there are bad guys...it's the reason why promiscuity and the news has more to talk about when it comes to infidelity and immoral crap. Everyone all of a sudden just thinks that's it's okay to screw 400 people with no strings attached and then be free and liberal and do the do cause i only live once....there's a lot of people like that. Nice people in GENERAL are a rare few it seems...honestly if people took a ratio of good people to bad it would NOT be pretty. But alas to each their own.
There are nice guys, most of them are the ones that are seriously focused on their lives, have no malice, probably shy and to themselves, have meaningful jobs, morals, all of that. You'll find these people everywhere, it's all a matter of noticing the traits. Loud, obnoxious, overbearing, snazzy cloth wearing, or just having the LOOK of being conceited can give obvious signs of arrogance, irresponsibility, or your typical bad guys, it all depends. And remember just cause they seem like an asshole to you doens't they truly are, they could be perfect and the kindest person alive to someone else.....it also depends upon who YOU consider a nice person. Everyone will have a problem in their life, it's just avoiding the ones with the most overbearing problem sometimes is the hardest part.

Answer 4

It sounds like you have had a bad experience. Stop going to the "two-step Tuesday" bar and try to meet more people. From my experience in Nebraska, there is nothing really to do in the state but raise cattle and grow crops. You need to explore the world, see new thing, meet new people, and then see if one in a billion men are jerks. That doesn't mean go to Europe, because not everyone can afford that, but at least go out of state to California, New York, Alaska, Texas, and all other states in between. This is a huge country and I am sure that out of the millions of men out there, there has to be one that will treat you right and make you happy. Just remember that he rarely comes looking for you (there are a billion minus one women who have realized the same thing you have and are looking for a good guy too). So whatever you do, just remember that there is someone out there that will be willing to make your life happy, if only you would let him in it.

Answer 5

It's the times. The media has driven a world where "in america" it's ok to cheat on your women. it's ok to abuse her, because she is no better. believe it or not this is the standard portrayal on television. some say that the media doesn't drive society - that society drives the media. Not true. america and many other countries look to our t.v.'s for our values because our parents are too busy making a living to give us good values. Good values died when a man was taken from his homestead as a place of work to a 9-5 job that supposedly made things better for the family. No longer able to teach their children values of hard work and respect the children became a product of "getting ahead" in the industrial revolution. the children just assumed that was a good way of life. But it led to temptations and lack of togetherness for the parents and the family as whole. Things just escalated from there - now a days there are 6 year old children that call their mothers b)^ch$ and disrespect everyone they meet - and the parents that raise them don't know any better themselves. No - you're right - they are rare. both the good female and the good male are very rare. Even the ones that claim to be good have been disrespectful to someone they know.
and many who say "I am the Rare one" are most likely the ones who are arrogant enough to believe their $hi7 don't stink!

Answer 6

I don't know if it's just nebraska or not. I'm from alabama. From what I've seen here and abroad its not that there aren't many of us good guys its that women go after the bad guys. They want the guys that are aggresive. That seems like it turns them on. I'm happily married myself and see my friends that are real aggresive get all kinds of women. It doesn't mater that they wind up cheating on them or talking to them like they are worthless. The truth of the matter is most guys who are aggresive are the one who are very poplular. I've never been popular with girls even though I have always treated any I've been around with respect. Saying this I'de say try to look at different things then looks when you are looking for a guy. I know I'm not the best looking guy out there and that don't bother me. I've got a good wife and a 2 beutiful children. Been maried for 8 years now and seen countles of my friends who look better than me treat their women bad and wind up lossing them. But that don't bother them they just hit the clubs and got a new one by the next weekend. Good luck and try to look for the guys that are shy and don't seem to be with the inn crowd. They are usualy the guys who will treat you right.

Answer 7

There are nice guys out there, however many women have made it very easy for men not to respect them. There are so many women out there who don't demand the respect they deserve, content to objectify themselves and shake it for anyone who's looking. When women become more respectable, the men will have to respect them. I'd always rather be single than have someone who doesn't see how great I can be.
And not all men are out there beating and raping women either. It's just that for some reason, people are more interested in those headlines than the ones about nice guys.
They are out there, though, whether you believe it or not. Hang in there.

Answer 8

Blame it on the news. Nice guys every day do normal things and hurt not even a bug on the ground. BUT nice guys do not sell news. So we all hear, watch, and read about the crazy guys. THAT sells news! But add up all the crazy guys on the news for 1 year. Less than 1%, or LESS of all the guys in the world.

Want to find nice guys. Join a serious gym.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I believe that after ladies act like they do not desire admire then they do not get it. It's the truth that ladies LET their guy disrespect them, on the grounds that, like Breezy stated, they appear and act like little wimpy women and not using a usual experience or admire for themselves. Some guys see the weak spot and take expertise of it. It's time ladies began watching at Rosie the Riveter once more.