why do i get upst over these things, its tearing me and my boyfriend apart... like tonight we were gogn to a friends house.. so we went to his friends gfrandparents and i was kinda scared.. and so me my boyfriend and our friend chilled for a couple mins and then he went upstairs with the her to get a guitar he kinda just left me sitting there and i was really upset kinda cause i was in a place i didnt know .. and whatnot .. and i was kinda upset cause i really just wanted him to be like oh come on up hunny but he didnt he just kinda went up without me.. and i was scared and shy, so anyways.. when we go to the girls house thigns were okay and he was being good.. but then he stole this girls spt so the girl went over and sat with him she kinda squished on the chiar.. so they wre pretty close... i wanted him to kinda get up and come see me but he didnt he evenutally did but not after till like 10 mins .. i pretended it didnt but me but it did.. so i confronted him later on.. he just kept
2006-10-21 17:19:09 · 9 answers · asked by somethingcorporate<3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
comparing though.. like oh well you went to someones house before and i told him that those thigns were different cause i would not ever go upstairs with a guy and leave him by HIS self .. so i didnt think it was fair .. we argued a little bit . and im really upset over the fact that he does thjings thate upset me and doesnt even realize WHY CANT HE JUST CARE FOR ME ! ? or am i overreacting .. if i am plz help me fix this i cant take it anymore.. i love him and all but its hurting me ...
2006-10-21 17:21:28 · update #1
Have confidence in yourself. Be a stronger woman. Engage in conversation with others. Don't rely on a man to make you whole. Stand tall. Don't be a door mat for anyone. Look in the mirror and say "I deserve to be liked and treated with respect." and you do!
2006-10-21 17:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset until you have a reason. Let him know that you're kind of uncomfortable in situations like that one. Also, let him know that he needs to respect you and make sure if the shoe was on the other foot would he be okay with you sitting almost in some guy's lap. When you guys talk about this, please don't hold anything back because you will end up leaving one of the most important points out to spare his feelings. What about your feelings? Most times we want to go beyond expectations in our relationships then we want to our partners to do the same. You know if he's not use to calling you honey in public then around his friends is the last place he going to start. If he says it all the time but don't speak the same to you when his friends around then that's another topic. Just be sure his behavior is consistent! Good luck!
2006-10-21 17:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Essential 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy you shyness is painfull. and this connects with your self esteem.
YOU need to learn to NOT depend on a guy to make you feel comfortable and secure. And don't rag on him for leaving you alone. all you have to do is fallow him up the stairs or walk outside or break up with him and tell him that you aren't confident enough to have a bf.
I was painfully shy and now no one would ever believe it. I am telling you this so you realize you won't have to be like this all of your life.
Putting things on your boyfriend isn't fair. In life when we place blame on others we neglect to take responsibality for our own behavior. Then we don't mature becasue we get stuck in our dysfunction . Also blamming your bf will put him on the defensive. Isn't it better to be in union than in discord.
If your behavior continues you will always be in the shadow of a man....and never grow in to the strong woman that you can be.
2006-10-21 17:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u are over reacting...id do worst then...im a very jealous girl my man even going to another chicks house aint happening even if im there...and well in your case..yes id be pretty upset why wouldnt he move or at least tell the girl in front of you that she has no respect! and then he should walk over to you and say come on hunny were getting out of here!!!! f***ing men!!!! ugh!!
2006-10-21 17:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by SomeOne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he didn't realize how uncomfortable you where because its his grandparents house and his use to it and as far as the girl goes once your forgiven twice probation three times hard time. Let him know that's not okay or maybe he was waiting for you to say something to the girl in this defense
2006-10-21 17:28:53 · answer #5 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can say mam is dat he probally isnt doing any thing wrong u kno if he lies then there is a problem to many ppl lose relationships dat way thinkin thins are wrong and its not
2006-10-21 17:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sheka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u have the right to get upset... you deserve better gal
2006-10-21 17:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Squall_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was wrong!
2006-10-21 17:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... DUMP HIM NOW!!!
2006-10-21 17:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋