Were you ever caught cheating. What was some of the reasons why you did cheat and were you able to work it out.
2006-10-21 17:16:53 · 12 answers · asked by the one who knows 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've never cheated, I just was looking for what kinds of reasons people cheat and what the spouse did too firgive them.
Just wanted to make that clear!
2006-10-21 17:32:41 · update #1
yes, I was caught cheating...and it was terrible! But I told my boyfriend that it wasn't the other guy that I wanted...it was him. After I had really thought about it, I realized it was him I had wanted all along. Just tell the person you cheated on that your sorry, spill out your feelings about them, and prove to them that you will do anything you can to make things better. I wrote a little book of all of our best memories and my favorite things about him...he loved it! So just do your best to show them that you care and things will be okay.
2006-10-21 17:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Poptart 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was caught.Someone told my boyfriend I was cheating.
When he confronted me I could not lie.The reason I did it was
because he had been working away for six months and came back acting like some kind of thug.I heard that he had been messing with someone else but when I would ask him he would say it wasn't true.But several people were telling me the same thing.So he came back after those six months he just
left me all the time to go out and party with his friends.One night I actually caught him trying to hit on some underage girl.I was standing behind him and he didn't know it.So I had enough and decided I could make him just as jealous.But I made a mistake.
He left to go on another job and I started a relationship with one of my good friends.I won't lie I had fun but I just missed my
boyfriend bad.I told him the truth and he was very pissed at first .
We didn't speak for days then he called me crying.And we decided to get back together and work it out.He came home and found a local job.We moved in together and soon after that I became pregnant with our first child.We are still together three years later and doing good.He forgave me but I'm sure he will never forget.There is still alot of painful guilt for me.But I know I will never make that mistake again.
2006-10-22 00:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. I know someone who has been cheating for the past few years with one person. She lives a comfortable life, has a family and her husband adores her. Why she cheats I couldn't say. My guess is that she has been with her husband for a long time and views him more like a "brother" than "lover". She says she loves him but is not "in" love with him however, she doesn't want to leave him either. Cheaters are not bad people, just people who make bad choices. I've heard of couples who divorced after finding out an infidelity and others who went to counseling and saved their marriage. Every situation is different. Hope this helps.
2006-10-22 01:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 35 years to the same woman. I haven't cheated yet and can't see a reason to start now. My trust has caused me some problems though. For sometime my wife thought I didn't care because I didn't display a lot of jealousy. It took years to get her to understand that in order for me to be jealous there must be mistrust. Since I trusted her there was no reason to be jealous.
2006-10-22 01:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i was caught. now for the reasons WOMEN read carefully. I cheated cuz rthe women i was with kept saying no to things that i wanted and most of them were things that we had already done. For example, when a man i dating a woman she will f his brains out, give him oral, anal, etc... to hook him then afterwards stop. then he is lucky to get a quick F$#@ once a week. for me i like lots of touching, foreplay giving and receiving oral, so what happens after the woman thinks im hooked into the ole bait/switch she stops. well LADIES that is the quickest way to drive ur man to another woman. LADIES think about this, a little extra in the bedroom and he stays at home or be lazy in the bedroom and he goes looking. LADIES its up to u
2006-10-22 00:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by keithy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no , i was never caught cheating an he still does not know about it - thank god! i cheated because i was lonely our sex life was so bad. but i considered all the pros an cons an decided not to cheat! i would rather have my marriage and my best friend. and take the good with the bad.
2006-10-22 00:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never cheated. Most people cheat out of boredom or to boost their self-esteem.
2006-10-22 00:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by starrynight1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lonely. No doubt about it. Loved the extra attention. It was a long time ago. I stayed in the marriage, shouldn't have, but did. Good luck if you can work it out.
2006-10-22 00:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I have ever cheated, so no, haven't been caught.
2006-10-22 00:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by avery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't need to cheat.
2006-10-22 00:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋