a boy i know lies to cover up a lie. he's just so serious about each lie. i think he believes his own lies. or he doesn't realize he's lying.
2006-10-21 17:00:23 · 15 answers · asked by mrsjonez07 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
....It is always sad when one feels the need to 'lie' just to live a day always being in denial...
... self's imprisonment may be filled with many self manifested anxieties...
...it would be living multidimentional, trying to catch up to all others different 'truths', here, there and everywhere, not making sense to self, so self makes up own reality based on ones own misconceptions of 'life' in general and how we let life live us instead of us living life...
...we do not want to loose face and honor. We subconsciously or otherwise know that we have lost (it) and it is called 'going down fighting' (not wanting to own what one has created....
It is all about self, trying to save face. He has been and continues to be 'exposed' and he has allowed himself to trigger self with a response...its called the mouth flaps before his head catches up once said too late, its out there...
...before he knows he is swimming in it, and no one likes to drown....
...this person is covering up internal pain...
...creating his life based on lies is his way of escaping reality....
...his reality is too painful to confront what he needs to, so he lies and lies in the hope things 'will' change for him...
...the only person he is hurting more and deceiving more is himself...
...we mirror and project this mirror...
... someone in his life may be lying to him, he may 'not' be aware of who this person is, but it will be someone who means something to him, a role model be it a parent or otherwise...
...so he engages and mirrors this energy and assimilates it into his own life making it a part of him within his own environment that which he receives this energy from...
...we all react to 'energy'...(remember how it 'feels' to walk into a room, and everyone goes silent?...)
...I would chance a new approach...
...start with offering true friendship, everyone has a beautiful 'light' inside, you may wish to try to bring it out in him... ;)
...See him as someone who really needs a friend to listen to him and really listen. (one does not learn whilst one does all the talking) Being one who has the knack of extracting teeth with the right questions is a challenge but also healing. Bringing awareness into it all...
It is in the questions...you will find your answers, even if he does not speak...watch his reactions..immediate denial is the first red flag! Words or no Words! Of course he may not 'see' this at first, it will be in the questions, each question will lead you gently to the next...
...Good liars need good memories, however see him as in denial of self rather than a 'liar' or you will just see and get more 'liar'....(we engage the thought and then we perceive it as just that thought)...
...make a mental note of changing your thoughts about him and channel happy thoughts his way instead...
...or completely leave it alone if its the too hard basket and put it out there for him to meet someone that will help him grow from this...
...and just keep being your unjudgemental self ;)...
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(excellent post Carol s)
love, light & laughter!
Harriett Potty ;)
2006-10-21 17:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by harriettpotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FEAR OF REJECTION.
FEAR OF RETRIBUTION.
FEAR OF FAILURE.
The propensity to lie is in everyone. Humans lie to try and escape a worse fate than what the lie tries to hide. This takes many forms. A parent will lie to a child to keep a child from the pain of truth. ex: child :"does santa exist?" Parent:"well of coarse dear!" The worse fate of telling the truth would cause the child pain and so the parent avoids the truth to spare the child pain. this is also true about lies that protect ones pride. ex: a child says to another "My daddy is superman!" The childs pride is at stake after saying such a thing when we all know his daddy is not superman. The child will continue to tell you that his daddy is so superman because the child is trying to avoid the emotional pain of being rejected by the other chiildren. if the child admits "his daddy is not superman", the child knows from experience he will be rejected and so he will continue to lie even though everyone else tells him the truth so that he will not be rejected. the problem with the thought process of the child however is that the child does not know that he is already being rejected. Some people never grow up to understand that the lie is boldly obvious to others and so they will lie until they themselves begin to recognize what everyone around them already recognizes that the lie is obvious. But one must be careful when there is a margin of error possible. sometimes what may seem like a blatent lie to many people is actually the truth.
2006-10-22 00:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by carol s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have difficulty accepting the truth. It almost seems like their mind has not developed all the way or they are lacking a conscience. Some seem to need time to convince themselves that a lie is the truth and they do not take kindly to being reminded that they have lied. Denial.
And some people do not express themselves very well verbally so they appear to be lying when they are not -- they are just speaking and forgetting to add what seems to them minor details.
2006-10-22 00:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are pathilogical liars they lie for no reasons at all some times i find it funny cause they just belive thier lies and its sad sometimes they really dont feel like their lying they feel like their just being themselves and when the get caught in a lie the first rule in a liars mind stick to that lie ax for the boy let him be in his dreamworld.
2006-10-22 00:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by makeveli1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insecurities and fright. People who tell lies to cover other lies are trying to impress someone and after a while they do not know what the real truth is.
2006-10-22 00:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by Diana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a million things. ppl lie to hide the truth and when the truth is found they lie more to make ppl think they didnt lie. some ppl lie b/c there insecure, are in a f'd up situation, and some ppl dont know why they lie they just do. just pray for him
2006-10-22 00:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by ant_20004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give Egghead the 10.
2006-10-22 00:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when people lie so much they start to believe their own lies
2006-10-22 00:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Leslie V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are mentally ill and prefer to live in delusion since their own life is so messed up they don't have the courage to face it.
2006-10-22 00:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's usually a defense mechanism.
2006-10-22 02:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Britney S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋