My "friend" took me out to lunch for my birthday. I was on a tight schedule, I only had about an hour. I explained this before I went, so she knew when I had to leave. We were having a nice time when her cell phone rang and it was another one of her friends, calling to tell her about her dermatologist appointment. (Not life threatening stuff.) I sat there, went to use the ladies room, came out and she was still on the phone...all in all about 10 min. I told her I had to go and got up and left to her wave goodbye. I was so insulted. I later confronted her and she told me I take things too personally. Is this not extremely rude or what?
2006-10-21 16:47:51 · 14 answers · asked by pinkee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Very rude...I would do the same. Next, time I would go to lunch with someone that really care about me and my day and my feelings....that was very hurtful. HANG IN THERE GIRL.......GIVE HER ANOTHER CHANCE AND IF SHE SCREW THAT UP....THEN YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO....GOOD LUCK . DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT TO MUCH!!!!!!
2006-10-21 16:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is HORRIBLY rude to blow off a friend that you took to lunch, I mean it's common courtesy not to be on the phone at lunch unless it's horrible, and how long does it take to talk about an dermatoligist appointment anyways? I mean arent you supposed to ask the questions when you actually get there??
I think you should let this one blow over, but next time you should confront her and let her know whats going on and give her the reasons your confronting her so she cant make excuses. But DONT be rude about it.
2006-10-21 23:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by i-can-only-imagine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a "friend" kind of like her. Just avoid her when she has her moments. And if It gets worse to where you just don't want to hang out with her, you can ocasionly make up fake storys, but if you find yourself having to do this often you just need to make it clear to her that she can be a little rude at times. (But make sure its an apropreate time.) Make sure you don't come on to strong otherwise you could start some reall drama. Always be careful. If she takes this hard avoid her. Atleast now she will be out of your hair. If she doesn't take it really hard and says she will try harder, your visits with her will be move enjoyable.
Hope this helps!
2006-10-21 23:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Geek Burger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL
nah, not really rude.
Seriously...shes supposed to be a friend, right?
So you sat there and told her right away youd only have like an hour or so to "squeeze" her into your schedule...while she was offering you lunch.
She obviously was hurt by that and paid you back by showing you how it feels to unimportant though you deserve some attention.
Be nice to her, tell her that you get the message and how you are sorry you didnt have more time for a special friend like her.
2006-10-21 23:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Invader Zim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is rude of her.... some people don't take their friendships seriously enough....
It sounds like you are too busy for her. You may have to hang out with other people who keep tight schedules.
Good luck.
2006-10-21 23:51:07 · answer #5 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the one being rude here.
She was nice enough to take you out. ( and you made her feel like she was only worth an hour of your 'precious' time) You sound like a nut case dictator control freak (no offence) What they were talking about may seem trivial to you but it was obviously important to her.
The world does not revolve around you and I have no idea how your friends put up with you let alone any guy. (you put me right off)
Pull your head in and apoligise to your friend.
2006-10-22 00:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by mattallica123 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thats not EXTEMELY rude, but its still rude. Just tell her that you dont appreciate her doing that. Maybe try doing the same thing to her and see how she feels about it. She might stop doing that then.
2006-10-21 23:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can't get overly-emotional about it. it was your b-day lunch and all, but you have to bring value to your b-day. that's what would have truly made you happy. Yes, that was rude of her. she should of really stopped the conversation. That's how some friends are.
2006-10-21 23:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have done "I am with a friend who is on a tight time budget. I'll call you back later".
i think you may need to reduce contact with her
2006-10-21 23:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it's understandable that you were pressed for time and that it was your birthday, but just because a person is talking on the phone, doesn't mean you have to react so strongly to it. sorry but you reacted in an overly sensitive way.
2006-10-21 23:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by narcissa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋