I go to school with this guy who is a very good friend of mine, but lately our friendship is being heavily tested. My friend uses every chance he gets to bring up his gf. I don't mind talking about her or hearing about her, but my friend takes it to the extreme. I've already had a talk with him a few months back about it, and he apologized, but it seems to be getting worse again lately.
The other day I was very worried about this other guy I go to school with because he posted on him blog that he was having extreme depression problems. My friend is friends with this guy, so I told my friend about my worries and asked if the guy was ok. Not only does he dismiss my concerns, but he also suddenly asks if Grey's Anatomy is almost over, cause its his gf's fav. show, and after its over she'll be able to chat on the comp. w/ him. I found this rude and insensitive. Alot of things like this have been happening lately and its wearing on me. What should I do? I care about my friend, but he doesn't seem to care back. Any advice? Thanks!
2006-10-21 16:29:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i think you should give him some space. dont hang around him and sorta ignore him. just not to the extreme. if he asks why then tell him the truth, or if its hard then get a friend to tell him. he'll get over it and eventually break up with his gf and go straight back to you. good luck. =)
2006-10-21 16:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe that when people are in the passionate (initial) phase of relationships, the whole world seems to disappear. People become self-absorbed and self-involved when they are in love and friends and other loved ones take a backseat in their life.
You are correct in attempting to talk to him about his insensitivity. I am sure he is not trying to be selfish, yet nothing has improved. It is sad that he is so wound up about his girlfriend that he shows no concern about his friend's depression. Also, I am certain that it is no fun for you to talk about his girlfriend nonstop with him. My advice is to back off of the friendship until he makes a commitment (and you see that commitment) to be less self-centered. Often times, actions take precedence over verbal warnings. He will then know that you mean business. If he does not improve thereafter, the friendship may dissolve into nothing.
2006-10-21 23:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do the same in return about some one u know that he dont like either. just babble on right over top. give him the same treatment hes giving u .and do it to the point where he canrt take anymore mayb he will get the darn messg.
2006-10-21 23:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by cheatersdevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off worry about your self, your busy trying to solve everyone else. Second are you jealous because you feel the girlfriend is taking all his time? Third talk to him again and if he doesnt listen then you have to deal or go
2006-10-21 23:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Alyssa C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would try to talk with him again, if it does not work out kick him to the curb and end the friendship. nobody deserves to be treated like that, friend or no friend.
2006-10-21 23:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disappear for awhile and tell him you'll be around when he has time for you.
2006-10-21 23:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya get a new friend
2006-10-21 23:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋