"Do you trust this person to raise YOUR children?!"
If not, break it off. It not sure, demand a long engagement until you are sure.
2006-10-21 16:27:15
·
answer #1
·
answered by urbancoyote 7
·
0⤊
0⤋
Love for each other is the most important when choosing someone to marry
2006-10-21 23:27:16
·
answer #2
·
answered by The gr8t alien 5
·
0⤊
0⤋
You do not "choose" someone to marry...unless, of course, you want a quick divorce. Marriage comes when it comes. Two meet and that's it. There is no choosing, per say. You just know it. It will be so different from all the others you had/have feelings for. Bam! Like a lighting bolt smaking you, there it is.
2006-10-21 23:29:07
·
answer #3
·
answered by mellow 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
For me, the most important thing was knowing that I didn't have to change myself to be with him. Meaning, I am able to be myself with my husband, just as I would be when he is not physically present. It was in the moment that I realized that I was in a comfort zone with him that I knew he was right for me because I didn't have to be anyone but who I am, and that is who he loves, and I love him for it.
For me, this was my deciding factor because that is very important to me, to have freedom. Freedom expresses itself in this light as not having to be bound by pretense and falsehood.
For you, I would say first seek deeply into your heart to find what is important to you. When you marry a person, there has to be a peaceful flow between you that has no real term to describe it, you just feel it. It feels smooth, comfortable and free. I would say if you are not feeling that, you need to reconsider. It is almost analogous to buying shoes that you have to wear everyday (if you can fathom that for the purpose of understanding). They must feel good, fit comfortably, be able to go with everything, be dressed up or dressed down, and look nice...All in one package.....When you find that one, then that's the one for you!
Best!
Silver
2006-10-21 23:43:19
·
answer #4
·
answered by silverlocs 1
·
0⤊
0⤋
Suzy, I honestly do not see how you can narrow it down to one important item or issue. We are much more complex than that; therefore there are many things that are equally important when it comes to an important decision such as marriage. Deep down you know what I say is true though don't you.... Sorry. No simple easy fix here.....
2006-10-21 23:32:41
·
answer #5
·
answered by Bikerbutt 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
I agree trust is the right word. However sometimes you may not know enough about a person whom you want to marry, or may not get a chance to establish trust.
In that case, my answer would be self-esteem. The person whom you are marrying should have a good self-esteem. The emotional maturity of a person whom anyone marries is directly correlated to his/her self esteem.
Good luck
2006-10-21 23:31:50
·
answer #6
·
answered by rvsasi 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
The most important thing for you to get marry to someone is the trush,love,and communication.
2006-10-21 23:29:09
·
answer #7
·
answered by flowermieses@verizon.net 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
Having been married for over 13 years I would have to say that you don't "choose" someone to marry.
If it happens it happens if not, so be it.
Do you enjoy their company?
Do you make each other laugh?
Do you like hanging out together?
Do you agree on money, sex, family, chores, religion etc. etc. etc.
2006-10-21 23:33:12
·
answer #8
·
answered by zaphodsclone 7
·
0⤊
0⤋
Someone you have a lot in common with... and most important, someone you cannot see living your life without....
2006-10-21 23:27:38
·
answer #9
·
answered by Anonymous
·
0⤊
0⤋
you should spend as long as you need in a relationship first before considering marriage. this way you will know if you truley love this person ..enough to spend the rest of your life together. and make sure you co-esist well together. and this will let you know how much bi_tching you are going to have to put with too....
2006-10-21 23:30:54
·
answer #10
·
answered by ~just_jd~ 5
·
0⤊
0⤋
Do they believe marriage is a committment or based on feelings?
Because the feelings will come and go over the years and without the committment, you will eventually divorce.
2006-10-21 23:30:24
·
answer #11
·
answered by gulf9191 2
·
0⤊
0⤋