I hear from many people, mostly from gay guys, that their sexuality does not play a huge role in their lives. I tend to disagree with this and I am also a gay guy.
I believe that most gay men that I know revolve around their gayness. They illustrate this by gathering at gay bars every weekend and attending gay functions. I don't think anything is wrong with these activities, but if these men were straight their social lives would be totally different. And it goes beyond just the weekend gay hot spots. Gay men also tend to be more creative and have similar traits. Their apartments are all decked out and their sense of style is excellent. I know this is NOT true for all gay men, but a vast majority of them that I know live, speak and eat gay. And, again, this is not a bad thing.
I think that we gay guys should just come out and say..yes we are gay and yes my sexuality is a big part of my life. It's just who we are.
2006-10-21 16:14:49 · 22 answers · asked by AnthonyPaul 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I totally agree. A lot of straight boys think they are macho and are obsessed with sex. Actually that is what most straight men think about and sex is important to them.
2006-10-21 16:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah* 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sexuality is my life. I'm a gay man, and more so than my straight brothers and sisters, this defines who I am. Unfortunately it also allows for generalisations ranging from my sexual behaviour (as distinct from my sexuality), to what my apartment looks like. I don't go to bars at the weekend, and I only attend gay functions when they are to do with my work. And strangely, I don't constantly have sex on the brain. Not that this is a bad thing, but I actually find it a distraction. When I get aroused, I deal with it, and then get back to whatever I was doing before. I suppose I'm not your average gay man, but I'm not even sure what that means anymore. Celebrate diversity. Hooray!
2006-10-22 00:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I go through phases when it is a huge part of my life and times when it is less so. It's always there though. It's part of who I am. I know it's a bit different for me as a bisexual woman than for a gay man but I think it's true of most people. My orientation is not much of an issue if I'm in a secure relationship, whether with a man or a woman. It's when I'm looking that it becomes important how I present myself. I find myself really looking at if a haircut will make me look dykey or girly and if my boots will attract more men or women.
2006-10-21 23:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question specifically: It depends on the person. Sometimes sexuality is right up there defining the man or woman and sometimes it isn't (it's more in the background, a very private thing).
My observations: Many gay men are like what you say; without their sexuality right out front, they would be unhappy and lose much of their identity. I don't sense this from lesbians. And I very much do not sense this from bisexuals, either men or women. Oftentimes a bisexual's sexuality is deeply hidden from the world. Then again, they do know they are different but their outer expression of their sexuality at least is more subdued than male homosexuals.
Does all of that mean that acceptance of one's true sexual orientation is not important to lesbians or bisexuals? No, it is very important. I think when at least self-acceptance of one's orientation is constantly denied, that opens up the door to all kinds of stress and possibly mental and physical illness.
2006-10-22 02:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people love to be part of a 'group', and enjoy spending time with people they feel are similar, and expressing themselves through their friends and social lives, while others feel that who they sleep with is one part of their life which doesn't necessarily have to affect any other parts. I'm sure this is true of all people, whether gay or straight, old or young, single or in relationships. Do and say what you feel is right for you, and spend less time worrying about what other people enjoy, or how they choose to express their sexuality.
2006-10-22 10:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To EVERY animal on this planet...from the lowest amoeba to the homo-sapiens sex is critical to survival and nature had the foresight to make sex both pleasurable and wanted. The fact that mankind (and Dolphins I'm told) are the only species on this planet that engages in sex purely for pleasure tells it all. Sex is simply fun!!! I've read that men in particular think of sex about once every 6 SECONDS!! I tend to agree with that statement since I'm a male and sexual thought pop into my head quite frequently. Now while I'm straight (and have nothing against gays and lesbians at all...live and let live) my thoughts tend to be of sex with females I can understand gays thinking about sex with other gays. If it feels good...do it!
2006-10-22 08:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your honesty is refreshing, if a straight person would have said this they would have been labeled bigoted. as for sexuality being a big or small part of ones life...i think it largely depends on the person. i know it shouldn't be the biggest part of your life as it would be unhealthy just as any other part being the largest would also be unhealthy. i think too it is dependent on age, us younger ppl tend to want sex more because we are not yet ready to settle down to one and we are still growing and learning. i think the third thing is gender...men whether gay or not want sex more than women, gay or not...its just the way we're wired...men want the sex, women tend to want the romance...nothing wrong with it, its just the way it is.
2006-10-21 23:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of the gay men you know hang around gay bars and attend gay functions, becuase those gay men you dont know, dont do those things and keep their private lives private. No sex isnt the center of the universe for most gay men, no more than it is for most straight men, anyway.
Of course ALL men are horny when in their teens, 20s and 30s.
2006-10-21 23:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol I'm gay and have been all my life. I flee from most gay scenes after being hit on by 20 million ppl with no standards. It is a ginourmous part of my life. It completly flipped it around, from parents to friends to just plain not being accepted in society. IM SO PISSED!!!! Did you know that Lawton Public Schools in Oklahoma will suspend students who hold hands with the same sex while this is accepted for the opposit sex? I almost got suspended myself!!! I'm working on doing something about it now........but lol, no one wants to help.
2006-10-21 23:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what stage of life a person is in.
As a child it plays no part at all.
Then as adolescents and into adulthood it play an increasingly larger role.
As an adult ages it plays less and less a role after a person's sexual peek.
Until finally you're back at the beginning where it means nothing.
2006-10-21 23:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋