Is it possible for men and women to have a good friendship without even thinking about sex?

Answer 1

I used to think so. I had a best friend that was a guy and we were friends for years. I never thought of him that way but when my marriage broke up he revealed that he had been in love with me for years. I was in a bad way. My marriage to my childhood sweetheart had just ended because he had cheated on me. I was pregnant with our second child together when I found out and filed for divorce. My best friend was there for me and I needed that love. I took it too far. We ended up being together and I have never regretted anything more. We were together for a while but when we moved to Las Vegas ( I had never been to Vegas before so don't go thinking I am some vegas ho or something!) Sorry, I just know from experience how people like to draw their own conclusions and get insulting. Anyway, I got a job at a car dealership and I met my future husband. My friend and I were not meant for each other. I knew that from the beginning but I was selfish and I only thought of myself. Not only did I hurt my best friend deeply, I lost my best friend. I still cry sometimes when I think of him and I will never forget him. He was the best friend I ever had and I will always love Paul. I screwed up but that does not mean it isn't possible for a man and woman to be friends and never think of sex. I am sure lots of people have successful boy/girl friendships. Good luck!

Answer 2

it is possible for men and women to have a good friendship without sex.
about thinking about sex, i think there might be some thoughts. but unless you don't want to, you still can keep the friendship within the limitation.

Answer 3

Yes I believe so...My friendship has lasted over 30 years with my best friend and she and I have never once thought about having sex with each other...We have a strong bond as friends and when she need my help I am there to help her and she is there anytime to help me. Her husband knows of our friendship and all her children know me. I am a single man and never been married but have raised kids as foster children with positive results. So my answer to your question is yes, it is possible to have a good friendship without thinking of sex and that kind of friendship only comes around once in a lifetime.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I have had many men friends that I have never thought of having sex with so I do believe its very possible. No, I don't think its possible, I know it. I have a man friend I worked with and what I truly loved about him was his devotion to his wife and kids. It made me know he was a wonderful person. I loose all respect for a person that talks down there spouse.

Answer 6

NO, it is impossible, or at least pretty darn close.

From teenager on to old man the average human male is thinking about sex 52% of the time (from an episode of 20/20 aired on ABC on Sept. 30, 2006. To men the single most important thing is sex. It is impossible for them to not think about it. This isn't because men are pigs it is because of how they were designed (evolved) and their biologically driven instincts. Men are sperm making machines, and since puberty and almost always until death men can produce new, healthy sperm. The best survival tactic for males is to breed quickly and with as many women as possible. That’s why sex is so important to us. It is also why a picture of a hot looking woman is enough to get most men sexually aroused.

Women are different animals. To a woman the single most important thing in her life is the relationship. This is why a man can get by in a week with only using 20,000 words while the woman needs 70,000 words (same episode of 20/20). To a woman the single most important thing in life is the relationships and the best way to explore and develop relationships is to communicate, the easiest way to do that is to talk. I am not saying that women are chatterboxes or gossip hounds. I am saying that a woman has to develop and check on her relationships so she needs to communicate.

Therefore to a woman talking is as important as sex is to men.

The woman can easily have a nonsexual relationship. They don’t need sex so much. After a woman gets pregnant her brain rewires itself. It actually shrinks a little for a time so it can rebuild itself (same episode of 20/20). After the baby is born the woman starts to lose interest in sex. In fact they get a higher production of endorphins when they are with and taking care of the child then they do when having sex. To a woman the relationship is the best survival tactic. While pregnant a woman needs help to get food, and later to just get around. In a marriage the male can fill that role, but in another form of a relationship, or with a single mother, she will instinctively seek out relationships to help her. After she gives birth then thanks to the rewiring of her brain she wants to develop that relationship with the child. Again this is the best survival tactic. The baby will only become an adult if the parents, or at least the mother takes care of it, and the only way the child will develop into a decent person is if they have a good relationship with their parents.

It is possible to rise above your instincts, to become more than just the animal, but your instincts are your default mode of thinking. Our instincts color everything that we do. So while a woman can be perfectly happy without thinking about sex a man cannot.

I have had a few relationships with women that were not sexual. But, even in some of those relationships the idea of sex was never very far away. Even with a woman who I did not consider to be pretty or sexually desirable (Robert A. Heinlein said that no woman is ugly, you just have to look for the beauty a little harder in some).

A platonic, nonsexual, relationship is possible, but at some point the male will be thinking about sex. They can’t stop doing it anymore than a woman can stop wanting to develop her relationships. The male can hide or submerge these thoughts, but they are still there.

Most women don’t understand the male need for sex; to them sex is good, but not all consuming. If a woman knew what a male was really thinking then she would be shocked at how much sexual thought was going on. So when a woman starts to lose her interest in sex, she can’t understand why the male will be tempted to stray. Of course the male can’t understand why the woman is losing interest in sex either.

inquisiti... chic: will be one of those shocked women.
Jocelyn: Your childhood friend may think of you as someone close to a sister now, but when puberty hit his thoughts did turn to you. In fact you were probably the first person that he thought about. He is smart enough not to tell you and ruin your friendship; he may not even remember it, because it was so long ago. But, you would be surprised about how easy it is to get a man sexually aroused.

Almost all the women who responded have no problem with a relationship that doesn’t involve sex, but the majority of the men can’t escape sexual thoughts. It doesn’t mean that the man is going to suddenly rape you, like I said we can rise above our instincts. But, the thoughts will go there in a guy at some point men can’t escape that.

For more information on the differences between men and women and how it affects their thinking see my answer for this question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhrMq_Z_9YPW918ag8jmEyHsy6IX?qid=20060908130830AAz4Xnu (answer #8).
I have had several people respond that they do like this answer and when they read it they start to understand the differences between the sexes.

Answer 7

Possible but not probable. Even if they never have sex and remain "just good friends," the odds are that one or both of them will have at least "thought" about how it would be to have sex with the other one.

Answer 8

Yeah, my best friend is a guy who I have known since I was 2 years old and now I am 20 and he is 23. When I was about 5 I had a crush on him and followed him everywhere like a lost puppy. But that soon ended and we have been close eversince.

Answer 9

Just as with many relationships you are still friends because you share common interests, and can communicate openly about anything. The question of taking it further almost always comes up at some point.

Answer 10

Sad question , but the truth is one will always think of it and live in tortured silence. Not wanting to loose the friendship.