I work in a production line setting and 95% of the people that work there are guys. I enjoy talking to them and have been asked to go to the bars with them in a group setting and my husband goes crazy accusing me of having sex with all of them. I admit to wanting to have an affair a few years ago but these are my coworkers and have no desire to do anything with them other than to chill out after work since I work second shift and my husband works first shift at the same plant but at different buildings. Now he is constantly calling me is not home at the time he thinks I should be and my job doesn't always end at the same time each night like his does. It is hurting my relationship and also making me upset so that it stresses me out at work. All I want to do be able to do my job and not have to go off the line to call home when can work overtime so he doesn't think I am out screwing around with someone. Anyone got any ideas???????????
2006-10-21 16:04:10 · 18 answers · asked by old lady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust is the key to a relationship! You need to have a serious converstion with him about this and how it makes you feel. If he doesn't starighten up, you'll have to make soome serious decision. You can't live your life like that!
2006-10-21 16:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I sure do have a ideal........stop going to the bars period!!!!!! You are a married woman and acting like a single woman!!!!!! If you want or need to go to the bar that bad.......go home after work and get your husband and take him to the bar with you!!!!
How would you feel if this was your husband doing what you are doing..........and you being the one at home waiting on him to come home?? Yes him going to the bars with the women....I don't care if what you are doing is innocent or not...it don't look that way nor does it sound that way.
Grow up and start acting like a married woman should, spend time with your husband and not the other men!! Sorry but I can't blame your husband for being angry at you, I would be too.
2006-10-21 23:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with jd above. Either that or tell him you don't care if he hangs out in bars with other women. That you would feel comfortable in knowing that he wouldn't cheat on you. That way you're giving him the same option. We're all adults here and we know that men and women all respect the institution of marriage and would never violate that for any reason. So relax.... buy him a Playboy Club Card and Key and show him that you have faith in him. Then he'll probably have so much to do with himself that he'll forget all about calling and checking up on you.
2006-10-21 23:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by southwind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is doing something since he think you is start checking up on him on his shift give him a dose of his own medicine another issue with this might be because you do work in the same place but on different shifts maybe he know what the people there are like but what it all boils don to if he wants you he is gonna have to learn to trust you.
2006-10-21 23:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit Cheating
2006-10-22 07:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, innocent or not, going out to bars with male coworkers is asking for marital problems. If the tables were turned, if his coworkers were 95% women, if he was going out as often as you do, and if the hours were reversed....
How would you feel?
2006-10-21 23:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think just time and evidence that you aren't doing anything should make him stop.
Maybe you should not go out for a while-- like a few weeks, just come strait home for a while and then when it's shown to him you aren't up to anything, you are either at work or with him, resume doing what you like to do and see how it works out.
2006-10-21 23:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you get off late in the night, then you shouldnt go to bars because you are a married woman and you have responsibilities. if you work long and hard, your husband probably would like to spend time with u. but u need to earn his trust before u could have more freedom.
2006-10-21 23:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get another job. We all have a responsibility to our spouses that they feel secure in the marriage. If you think you are going crazy, imagine how he feels.
I would tell him you will try and find another job, so you can work during the day and not be in that environment.
What's more important your marriage or job.
2006-10-21 23:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by gulf9191 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you marriage means anything to you, you must respect his feelings. Perhaps he has a reason for feeling this way. He does not trust you for a reason. Your post shows that you are trying to defend yourself of something....maybe you really want out. My advice is take a good hard look, maybe you really want out and are flirting with a way to do it.
2006-10-21 23:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by pronoun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋