Are u a very intense person? Do u find it hard to make friends because of that?

Question

I am a very intense person. Not in a bad way. But I find that people just dont get it, or shy away from me after while because of it.

I often wonder why. I feel like such an alien sometimes.

Answer 1

I am an extremely intense person. Most people can only take me in small doses.

I am not opinionated, or not verbal about the opinions I hold, with a few exceptions. I am very tolerant of others and patient.

Hard to make friends? Sometimes. Harder to keep them for very long. I tend to frustrate others, especially very shallow people.

I too feel like a "Stranger in a Strange Land" more than "Just One of the Guys." I have learned to live with this.

Answer 2

If you mean intense as in taking the friendship you have for something really profound and serious, if that's the problem you have, just lay back and try to not rely on others so much for amusement and fun (or if you take your friendships REALLY seriously, care and concern). People come and go. Friendships are fleeting, and in the end, all you really have is yourself. Maybe I'm the wrong person to listen to, because my friends don't think I'm around *enough*. But I like my independence. And a bunch of fluffy cats purring on my lap completes my day. I highly recommend cat-lap-therapy. =)

Just try to live by the idea of:
Friends = Fun and being goofy
Family = Love and protection
Animals = Both

Answer 3

Question: intense in what way? Do you mean to say that you are opinionated and love sharing this with people? Or do you mean that you are very emotional?

I don't think that I am emotionally intense; I'm more of the opinionated kind and I suppose sometimes I feel like people avoid me because they feel uncomfortable about what I talk about, I guess. I learn to keep conversations light and general for acquintences, despite the fact that I feel like a phony doing it. Once in a while I come across a person whom I feel would get me and thus we become friends. I would then let down the light-and-general pretenses and just talk whatever I want to talk about because I trust that my friends would not 'shy away' or feel scared of me.

I feel like an alien sometimes when I think about the number of people that I am friends with (hint: you could count them with your fingers!) compared with thousands that others seem to have but I don't feel so much like an alien when I talk to my friends.

Answer 4

hey hi
if u r intense n find it difficult to make friends ..simply leads that u r trying wrong people..
or the matter can be (possibly) that u r someone else in urself n representing urself in this materialistic world in some other ways or u can say u r supposed to be that way..that leads u to find no one..
u must wait for someone who is true to u n is as much like u as possible..but don't avoid anyone as u'll get to know how much different u r from others ..n it'll help u lot
n try to find peace of mind while alone.....man u r fortunate at least u r not having friends with whom u feel uncomfortable.........that situation is worse than this one
but u must wait ..it takes time to find parternes..but having patience n calmness in deep within soul is all that works
GOD BLESS U

at a time i was facing same problem ..n my problem was i didn't know that it was my problem....ha ha
n today i'm having frnds who know me more than me
but ya never pretend just be what u r .....its important for the person to be with u that what u r in actual..
so u stay cool n calm

Answer 5

I am an intense person... I'm very opinionated and NOT afraid to express these opinions, but I am very open minded... If you can express your point and prove it to me... that's great.

I don't find it hard to MAKE friends, I find it hard to keep people around because they aren't accepting of my opinions. My philosophy is... If I am willing to hear out your argument (Whether I agree or not) I expect the same courtesy done unto me. People find that aspect challenging.

Answer 6

You can be intense just pay attention to how you treat others.
Do you dominate and try to make people see your point as better than theirs?
I'm going to use a comparison to dogs here but don't take it personal. some dogs greet you and are all over you and want to jump on everyone and others are easier to take. You need to tone down your intensity and become aware that Other People have just as intense and fragil feelings as you do and they are trying to protect themselves from being licked to death or having their crotch sniffed.... do you get the clue here.... just add more courtesy to spice your intensity and make it more palitable.

Answer 7

'Laid back' seems to be what everybody seeks. Intense can be draining. I know cause I am somewhat intense, too. Well, I'm either intense or I don't give a f*** lol Seems to be not much middle ground for me.

Don't worry about it. Who wants to have a bunch of friends (since most of them aren't REAL friends, anyway)? Just have a few close people who know you and appreciate you for who you are.

*hugs*

Answer 8

For the record, the first person who answered your question is probably an over sensitive baby who can't handle criticism, in other words, a coward.

The truth is, most people are too afraid to think, so they let others do all the thinking for them, like religion, the government, pop culture. These types of people are threatened by free thinkers, or "intense" people with their own thoughts and opinions. They can't handle it, so they run off, in search of the comfort of being in the company of those who refuse to "rock the boat".

My advice: forget about those kinds of people, they will only hold you back. Keep searching for the free thinkers, they are the only people worth spending your time with. Trust me.

If you are as intense as you say you are, then you would probably enjoy spending time with other like minded people anyway.

Answer 9

I'm intense, open-minded and opinionated. A deadly combination. I smoke weed. That's how I did, not that I am condoning the use of drugs in any way.

Answer 10

I'm a reserved person and really don't hang out with others at work -- I don't like cliques - too high schoolish. I prefer being by myself...

Answer 11

Maybe you make extreme statements. Are you judgmental of others? Sometimes intense people are irritating and no one wants to walk on eggshells around them.