How can I get my 9 yr old son interested in sports, he has no permanant male figure around?

Question

Mom is a sports nut and always has been, but son seems to have no interest in sports whatsoever

Answer 1

he doesnt have to be into sports just because he is a boy. That's like saying all little girls have to like to play tea with their stuff animals.

I mean if you're worried he might be too feminine don't stress. >Because< he has no male figure in his life, he will most likely grow to respect and treat women sweetly, since that's all hes been around.

If your concern is about male bonding, you can always look into family for that. Take him to his uncle or his older cousins house, and let him enjoy their company and play and grow from them

Answer 2

Everybody has given you advice on what if you join this program. My question is what if you don't? Would he still be able to attend regular classes? What would be the difference other than that he would not be an elite student? Does it take more (like skill/wins) to join the elite program or can anybody get into it who produces the cash? If he didn't join would he still get training and what kind of training but just not have that elite image? Take a step back and take a real good, very honest look at that and if it is the elite image that appeals to you then maybe it is the wrong reasons altogether. Ask yourself if it is that if you are in the special program you can now tell everybody that you are training for the Olympics over another good student who also trains hard and I is dedicated but doesn't belong to the elite? Is there maybe just a little, this pride thing creeping in that my student is better than the rest and the teacher is telling you that to be truly better than the rest you must be part of the special program? I also have to question what is being withheld from regular classes that the students in the special $25,000 program get? If you are on the other side of the fence then it kind of looks like 'I won't teach you everything because you don't have the money'. To me this does not speak well of the teacher. What teacher who truly has a kids' success at heart would withhold training from a deserving child who just can't afford the big bucks? Also do you realize how easy it is to go to junior Olympics and compete without whipping out that kind of cash? My teacher's school is heavy into competition and they compete in junior Olympics all the time. Their tuition is nowhere what your teacher wants. They offer special training seminars here and there but it still is nowhere close to the amount of what you are expected to pay. Unless your son has competed in junior Olympics and done well I would not even consider trying to prep him for the Olympic team. Right now I would let him compete locally, on a state level and national level, then maybe try an international competition and I would work my way up that way. While you are at the competitions talk to people and learn. You never know who you run into and if your son is really as good as you think he is schools will be happy to have him join their school sometimes even at reduced tuition and present them at tournaments. Tournaments are very political and it is all who you know and how well you play the game.

Answer 3

Hi,
I live with a ten-year old that isnt mine but we get along fine....his real father is something of an alcoholic, so he lives with me 5 days a week and I like him a lot. I know it has bettered him in a lot of ways as far as self cofidence and self esteem are concerned. Additionally, your son is young and there's plenty more time for that; he's only 9 and he's got another 5 years to figure himself out and he may end up really liking sports.

Answer 4

You can't force a child to be interested in something you are interested in. He is a different person and has his own interests. You're just going to deal with the fact that you have a son who has no interest in sports.

Answer 5

Maybe you should talk to him about some sports that aren't so well known. I run cross country and its a blast. I also got my Black belt in Taekwondo a few months ago (after 4 years...) My freind plays lacrosse (but that can be brutal) try golf if he isnt meant for physical activity. The possibilities are endless!!!!!

Answer 6

Well first thing first, don't force him to play. Because if you do, he will hate it. Second, just encourage him to try a wide variety of sports, but don't make his life all about that one sport, and make sure he knows that all you want is for him to do his best, not to have to be the best, just as long as he tries. Then he will enjoy the sport and want to do it.

Answer 7

Hun,as he grows older,he may become a sports fanatic.Allow him to be interested in what he likes and enjoys.Do not try to force him to be interested in anything.
Also,he needs a male figure present.Someone he can go to,just him and this male figure and can speak about "man stuff".Im sure,he doesnt want to speak with you about "man stuff",as sad as it may sound.It may be a little uncomfortable for him to speak with you about changes that are happening with his body(etc) as he grows older,which the changes arent that far off.Even if it is just an uncle,or one of your friends that you trust.He needs a male figure.A male he can speak with,and what they speak with stays only between them.It will help you out,and it will benefit him majorly.Allow him to enjoy his own things.Each person is different,and as he gets older he may become interested in sports.He does need a male rolemodel in his life.Speak to a family member or family friend and allow them to hang out once a week,and make sure he knows that this male figure is available to talk anytime he may need.It will help him speak about things,without being "embarassed".Good luck hun,and allow him to enjoy what he likes,that is what will make him an individual.You do not want him to be one who merely "blends in",as no one remembers those who simply "blend in".They remember those who stand out and stand their ground! Where would we be if Martin Luther King Jr,or other well-known,brave human beings from history had simply "blended in".Encourage him to be different,and teach him that there is nothing wrong with that.He doesnt have to like something simply because someone else does.

Answer 8

I used to hate sports too. but now that I'm a senior in high school I wanna do everything.

but you probably don't wanna wait until he's a senior. I suggest letting him watch sports on television and going to a camp where he can try playing many types of sports and find one (or more) that he likes.

Answer 9

You should indirectly get your son interested in sports. Maybe you "Won" a pair of tickets to a game and take him. Have play dates with kids who are athletic, take him to a World Series party.

Answer 10

encourage your child to join the baseball or basketball team! He may not show an interest now, but when he sees the bonding experience on a team, he'll love it. My brother was the same way. Just be patient, it takes time. Don't force it, kids hate what they have to do. Make it something that's just a game, nothing serious. good luck!