i kinda whant to know why nobody likes me? its not that im ugly...all my friends say im like gorgeous... and i have a pertty good personality, im friends with everyone in my school and im really friendly... but i still havent had any guys ask me to the up comeing school dance?
im only 13. its not really that important. but it just bugs me
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why dont they like me?
if you have nothing nice to say please dont say anything at all.
2006-10-21 15:18:01 · 23 answers · asked by Lisa 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yea i didnt ask about love...i asked what might be some reasons a guy wouldnt like me....and belive me this boys arnt afraid of "cooties"!
sorry about the spelling...=]
2006-10-22 09:52:49 · update #1
Don't worry, it's not you, it's them. Seriously. At thirteen, most guys are still not in to dating. That usually comes around 15, so right now a school dance may seem intimidating to them. If you know someone you would like to go with, be the one to make the first move and ask them.
If you are afraid of rejection, all I can say is that once you have been told no, and have gotten over it, it's not such a scary thing. And if you are as a great a girl as everyone says, it just might be that the guys are afraid of asking you because they are afraid you'll turn them down.
2006-10-21 15:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by psychirr4u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of a 14 year old, I know that 13 is a tough age. It is awkward to ask someone to a dance. I like every ones answers about asking someone or going with a bunch of girlfriends. But, it sounds like you would like to go with someone. No doubt that boys are strange at this age.
I would suggest getting a group to go together boys and girls. You can ask your friends who they would want to join the group too. Then of course you will ask a guy you are interested in (or a couple guys). This would be the best way cause then you'll have a couple of options and just go with the flow. And there will be no weird pressure. You will click with someone. Most important is to have fun with the group you go with. In other words try not to get caught up in getting a guys attention. Besides, they wouldn't know a good thing if it hit them on the head.
2006-10-21 22:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cellen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
coming from a person that's been in the same situation, i think that it could be a number of possibilities. well, it could be hard for guys to ask a girl to go out. look at their situation, they may not be able to deal with rejection. or you might not be their type? all guys have different opinions about what they like in a girl, so that could also be the reason. maybe some special guy is waiting to ask you the day of the dance or while you're dancing. wouldn't it be more romantic if a guy asked you to a slow dance unexpectedly? and even if you don't have a guy to take to your dance, go with the friends. they're the people that are there for you, when guys aren't. haha, have fun! :)
2006-10-21 22:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by hello :] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its not that important , go solo honey you will be the highlight of the dance. Your 13 way to young to worry about a dude asking you to a school dance, or if it bugs you that much these days girls are asking the guys, they love it! Take it from a Mom that has (2) very shy boys.
2006-10-21 22:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by lavon b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a bit stand-offish or seem somehow unapproachable. Perhaps some of the guys in your class are interested in you but have no idea if you would have any interest in them, and rather than risk rejection, they just don't bother trying.
My suggestion to you is to be more forthcoming. If you like a guy, let him know it. Ask him if he's going to the dance, and if he says, "No" ask him why not? He might say he has nobody to go with or he's just not that into dances or something and you can say, "Oh, cause I was thinking maybe we should go together" or something like that.
There is nothing wrong with being the one to suggest it.
2006-10-21 22:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Miss E. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its very typical for 13 year olds (especially girls) to think that nobody likes them. The reality is that usually its not true at all.. My 17 yo daughter and I were just talking today about how she used to think everyone hated her and she changed schools and everything and then found out later on that the people she thought hated her actually thought she was pretty cool. She admitted she was more insecure back then. I bet a lot of teens feel this way and no one even knows it. Dont stress! I bet you are liked a LOT more than you think.... Hang in there!!
2006-10-21 22:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Petri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, if you're really all that gorgeous and have such an out going personality, the younger version of the male species tend to be a lot more intimidated, so don't fell like anyone doesn't like you women just mature faster than men and that's a scientific fact. Just be happy and if no one asks you go by yourself or with friends and just have fun.
2006-10-21 22:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by prettylilgeishagirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you are so well liked and popular that the boys are feeling a bit scared to ask you out.
it takes a lot of guts to ask someone out in the first place, and then when its a pretty girl who is well liked and known , if you fail you would feel like everyone would know about it.
How about a group of you young girls ask a group of boys to the dance and you all go in a group without specific pairs, ( that may happen later ) and then no one has any pressure on them.
2006-10-21 22:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by sandiemay01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at 13 and 14 guys are still immature and asking someone to the dance would be like setting fire to their head to them. Dont worry their just afriad of "cooties"
2006-10-22 00:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're only 13. It's not like you're going to a prom. As guys grow older, they will become more into girls and girls will become more attractive-looking. Not that I'm saying you aren't. Second of all, guys like girls more if they are confident and ask the guys out personally themselves. So, stop being self-conscious and make the first move!
2006-10-21 22:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by desigal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋