Is it that eady to leave someone you have loved and put faith in for 23 yrs
2006-10-21 15:15:02 · 10 answers · asked by Sariee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is never easy to leave someone. A divorce or break up is worse than death. With death you have closure. You know it is over and you don't have the chance of seeing them with their new wife at a store or restaurant.
2006-10-21 15:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person you have to leave. It's much easier if that person has lost your trust, ie messing around with other women. I think the biggest problem is not the leaving, it's the calm after the storm. You have too much time to ask yourself did you do the right thing? Did you do everything possible to fix everything? You know sometimes it is just time to say goodbye. No need for bitterness, no need to "just be Friends", just say goodbye. However, that doesn't mean you are finished with life. Just that chapter. You get to write the ending you know?
After doing a quick back ground on your situation (just me again was quite interesting) I think you know what's going to happen. It's just easier to be the one to start the ball rolling. Just remember that we're always here to listen, to empathize, and to just talk. Good luck just doesn't sound very supportive but I still hope you have some anyway.
2006-10-21 22:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt as if my world as i knew it had suddenly stopped,but somewhere out of the blue i got the courage to take one step at a time, i knew i could never get past his cheating, and plotting with this woman, and that the hurt was just too much to ever consider going backwards. so i filed for divorce, and went to the hearing with my head held high, as if i had all the confidence in the world, which i didn't. 3 years later i can tell you it does hurt, and it takes awhile to get through it, and that one always has a future, maybe not with that person but with someone else.when one door closes another opens up for us, pain doesn't leave us where it finds us, there is light at the end of this dark tunnel, we just have to go through it, it's how we face adversity that matters, not what happened to us.
2006-10-21 22:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married for 21 years and was totally shocked when she served me with divorce papers, and no it was the hardest six months of my life. i felt like i was incomplete as a person for having this come upon me. i felt like i had done something to deserve it. guilt loneliness and and pain ran into the depths of my soul until the truth came out. when it did i found my self glad that i had gone threw what i had to. what i lost because of the divorce i have gained back in spades. my world my life is a hundred and eighty percent better.
2006-10-21 22:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by redsyoungstud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NEVER EASY TO END A RELATIONSHIP. 23 YRS IS A LONG TIME. TAKE IT ONE DAY, ONE HOUR, OR EVEN ONE MINUTE AT A TIME IF YOU HAVE TO. BESIDES, WHATEVER HAPPENED IS NOW IN THE PAST. DUST YOURSELF OFF AND KEEP GOING. IT'LL BE OK.
2006-10-21 22:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by thundergnome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it's not easy,but if it something that you must do then be prepared for hard times cause it will hurt for a little while.Good Luck.
2006-10-21 22:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but you have to look out for your best interest! You can get help out there! Where is his faith at?
2006-10-21 22:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is the toughest thing that I have ever done. Death would be easier because then you have no choice but to move on.
2006-10-21 22:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course that can't be easy, you get so used to that person being around. even if he does nothing more but lay around an watch t.v.
2006-10-21 22:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not easy but you will survive.
2006-10-21 22:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋