her as hard as i could in her stomach,,why dont i feel bad at all ,i loved see her rolling on the ground gaspping and gagging so hard for air,.HISTORY-she stole him away from me while we were together behind my back..we are both in our early 20,s,,,does this make me a bad person?
2006-10-21 14:39:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
"i just walked up to my ex bf,s new gilfriend and punch? "
is not a question...
however that aside, doing that doesn't really accomplish much except maybe getting lawyers chasing after you.
and you've got to face it, if she was able to 'steal' him away he wasn't really that dedicated in the first place, and you're better off finding that out now than 10 years down the road when you've got a lot more invested in him. By 'stealing him away' she actually did you a favor because now you can spend your time finding someone who IS dedicated, and not going to jump ship when something shiny in the water catches his eye.
And ultimately, if he is such a flake, she's gonna find it out the hard way when he bails on her. She'll get her just desserts without you having to dish them out.
It'd really be better for you and the rest of the world if you found another outlet for that anger. There's a saying that goes:
"Revenge is for children and the emotionally retarded."
sorry to be harsh, but doing that really didn't do anybody any good.
2006-10-21 14:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
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2016-05-05 21:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Martina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it makes you sound obsessive and dysfunctional. If you had any common sense, you'd have just let him go when he went off with her.
He's as responsible as her for getting involved. It was doomed to happen. You can't just run around punching your ex's gfs. You're not together anymore. Furthermore, "he's the one who left you", not her. He's the one responsible for what you two had together, not her. He's weak. All she did was attract him. He probably would've went off with someone else if he hadn't met her.
Just move on with your life and forget him. Why continue hurting yourself by obsessing about him. How old are you now btw? You said you were both in your early 20s. And your still angry about it? Forget him and start a life of your own now.
The longer you hang on, the longer it's going to hurt. The more you try to get even with him, the longer you're going to keep hurting yourself.
2006-10-22 20:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are a bad person but I do think your actions were immature. First of all she didn't steal him from you. You ex boyfriend was with her because he wanted to be. The word "steal" is not appropriate for that situation. Now I am not saying she wasn't wrong for messing around with him if she knew he was involved but hey that's what trifling people do and it sounds like they are both trifling. As for you punching her that was tired and immature. You didn't prove anything besides that you still care. I am sure after you punched her, he made her feel all better and they both think you are a crazy idiot. You don't have the right to put your hands on anyone. Now if she would have got up and beat the crap out of you than I bet you would have felt bad then. Keep in mind what goes around comes around......
2006-10-21 15:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No it just makes you a sad and angry person. Just because he decided he didn't want to be with you it was certainly not her fault. You need therapy to deal with anger issues otherwise you will end up a sorry and frustrated women possibly behind bars. After all what you did was a criminal act and if it were me that you punched I would have had you charged up the wazzooo.
2006-10-21 17:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person, well not necessarily.... it probably makes you a somewhat immature person; but yet, I don't really know you so I can't really judge you....
What I CAN judge is the action that you took and the fact that you took a violent action to get back at a person who hurt you is a very immature thing to do, and dangerous because you could get in trouble.
It's ok, we all make mistakes and I know that probably in the spur of the moment when you saw her standing over there with her stupid face you just wanted to smack her teeth off... i understand, but that's not a way to deal with your anger and resent.
Here's a small list of guidelines that really helped me in a similar situation:
1.) You must have some pride! These two persons who betrayed you, are IDIOTS. You must not care about them. By doing what you did you just proved to her that you can't get over what they did to you and that you CARE and think about them all the time. Remember, hate is a feeling, and you shouldn't feel anything for them. You must forget them, because they are shitty people with fecal matter inside their skulls... they are not worthy.
2) Aggression is NEVER the answer to ANYTHING. It can get you in trouble with the law or it could trigger an aggressive response from the person you attacked, so it is potentially dangerous.
3). It really was your ex-bf's faul. If he really really loved you, or simply CARED for you, he would'ntve done what he did (cheat on you with her and/or flirt back at her when she made advances, etc). If he at least cared for you as a person, if he liked someone else he would tell you in your face and not sneek behind your back and cheat on you.
3.) You have to learn to control your anger and think before you act. You didn't think of the repercussions of what would happen if you attacked that girl. Sure, you were lucky this time and you didn't get arrested or sued or something but if you act like that in a futute situation where you get really angry..... well you know.
4.) Learn from your mistakes.
Eventhough she had it coming it doesn't mean that what you did was justified. There are other ways of getting closure, like forgiving and forgetting and realizing that they did what they did because they are bad people that lack common sense and human emotions.
There are many good guys out there who wouldn't do to you what your ex did. That girl didn't steal him from you believe me, it was his fault because he didn't truly love you.
And remember a final thing Karma is a ***** (annother reason you shouldn'tve hit her). The harm that girl did will bounce back to her x2.
2006-10-21 16:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mary0319 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It seems very childish, and pathetic. Why would you fight over a male., any male. There are so many men in the world, good men. Why bother, you made yourself look like an idiot, and you have no remorse. Well, that tells me you really need some help. No wonder he left you for her, you not only have anger management issues, you are also a sociopath. God bless
2006-10-23 10:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very ladylike (sarcasm), do you feel better? Hopefully she won't press charges against you. But think of it this way, he is your ex and you are his ex, how would you feel if this was done to you. Just know that what goes around "does" come around, so be prepared. You should feel bad. Suppose she would have died. That was very very stupid.
2006-10-21 23:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people on this post sound offensively self-righteous.
I am impressed that you can do that and legally get away with it. If you can evade the law again, your ex-boyfriend definitely deserves it as well.
I think it's completely and utterly natural of you to not feel bad about hitting her, and it completely makes sense that you don't feel regret, and actually feel pleasure from seeing her in pain. What else would you feel? Sorry that someone who has caused you a lot of pain is now feeling pain as well? Who would really feel like that?
I'm not sure what it means about you that you actually took the step of hitting her. It's not typical for one person to actually hit another. It might be worth thinking about what it means that you actually took the step (that everyone in reality would have loved to take, but never does) of striking another person. Ask yourself why you ended up doing something that most people would like to do, but never actually do, in reality.
2006-10-21 15:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by John 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It doesn't make you a bad person, but what have you achieved? Eventually, we all get what we dish out, so it would have been better for you to let her take him and go. They were probably good for each other; a cheating liar and a backstabber. But now you'll have to pay your price for hitting her. Read 'Total Forgiveness' by R.T. Kendall.
2006-10-21 14:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋