What should you do if your boyfriend wants to go a little too far on the first date but you have dreamed of dating him since you were like 10 and he is soooooooooooo hotttt!!!!!!!
2006-10-21 14:34:52 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
say no, because if you go too far, then you're gonna regret it, and your first day wont be as sweet as you wanted it to be, he has to respect you.
2006-10-21 14:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by starbursts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go as far as you feel comfortable. There is no time limit on when you should do things. With any good relationship, you need to form a bond. Not necessarily a sexual bond, but you need a bond. You need to, above all, form a friendship. You can't have any kind of serious relationship with a person without at least having a friendship. Take your time. The faster you rush things, the weirder it might be. Do what you are comfortable with. Sometimes people rush into things way too fast and that's when a relationship is purely sex based, which is not necessarily a good thing. The main thing I can say is take your time. Losing your virginity is a big deal, a lot bigger than what people make it out to be. It's also something that you will remember for the rest of your life. No matter what, you will always remember your first time. Don't just throw it away on some fling or on someone who doesn't mean anything to you. Taking the step to have sex is a big one. It not only leads to a special bond with that person, but it also can lead to other consequences. You need to be careful. STD's are a big threat, HPV (leads to cervical cancer), pregnancy, just to name a few. You need to be careful. I'm not saying you should be scared of sex because sex is a wonderful thing. But you seem like you might be young. You need to take your time and keep an open relationship with your boyfriend. Talk to him. Talk to your friends. Making out and fooling around aren't that bad, just be careful. It's easy for things to move quickly when you are turned on. Like I said many times already, just take your time. Use your judgement. Don't be scared at any point to say no if you aren't comfortable in a situation. With sex comes a lot of consequences. You need to think long and hard about them.
2016-05-22 08:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if you are old enough to date even.
Even if you are 40 years old.
Say stop. Then if he does not stop, get up and go home.
If you still go out again be in public only and lay down the rules. It is your body and you do have that right. No one should rush you in to anything. Tell him "you are not ready for........yet".
It is all part of growing up but girls have more to loose then boys, but both have enough to loose, so think twice before going out with him. You do have mix feelings about this boy. So be careful, there is time for every thing and every thing has it's time.
Show him this latter. Tell him when you say stop you mean it and he must or you will not go out again ever, then follow through.
2006-10-22 00:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell him that you're not ready for that type of relationship just yet. If he gets angry or anything of that nature then you get rid of him! A man should respect you, and your body. If you aren't ready to go that far then you put a stop to it! Don't make a mistake and let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to.
It doesn't matter how hot he is, there are other good looking guys out there who will respect you and your thoughts. Please don't give yourself into some guy just because he's hot. Believe me, it's not worth it!
2006-10-21 14:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your bf or a first date? how can you call him a bf if you are yet to go on a date with him? he must be just a familar face or an aquiaintance from what you have said. did he say he wants to be your boyfriend as soon as he got to know your interest in him? the word boyfriend sounds more like a license to getting closer physically. that's what boys and girls generally do!
think from your head, not your heart lady!
2006-10-21 15:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by GAWD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Girl,
If you have got to know from someone or somewhere or he has let you know what he has planned for your date than please be careful. You are already head over heels for this guy and he already knows about it and thats the reason on your very first date he is planning all this. Please don't fall into the trap. Tell him if he has similar feeling for you than he should wait for you too. Don't do anything today that you might regret tomorrow.
Hope you take our advise .... as u see above none i mean none are telling you to let him do what he wants to.
2006-10-22 19:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sure way to lose your boyfriend forever. As soon as you have sex with him, he will lose interest and will not respect you. A little necking is OK, but DO NOT go all the way. Save it for after your marriage, no matter how damn hot he is.
2006-10-21 14:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets just say, if he's worth it, he can wait. And if he thinks your worth it, then he should be more than happy to wait and respect your wishes. Don't let a guy pressurize you into anything you don't want to do, no matter how hot he is!!! Take care : )
2006-10-21 18:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy is worth changing your moral. Plus, if you give him what he wants you will never get the respect you deserve from him. If he really wants to be there he will wait for when you're ready. Else, he's just there bec he knows he can get what he wants.
:) Hope all goes well.
2006-10-21 14:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Geetu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready for that then you should be real with your self and not give in to him because he is hott. If he likes or loves you that much then he will wait til the time is right for both of you. Life is full of opportunities and it he is not willing to wait and pressures you about it then he is not the one for you.
2006-10-21 14:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no u respect your self and if he likes u he will say i understand but if he keeps it up he dont respect you and that is a big thing in this world today sand you ground its the first date tell him from the jump respect me or go home
2006-10-21 14:42:07 · answer #11 · answered by sassy g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋