My mom was cheating on my dad and she used to be Bi-sexual and now she's Lesbien and is getting a divorce w/ my dad... if my mom makes me live with her and that other woman, (who I am not confortable with.... She will take off her shirt and her fatness will shine like the sun and she really scares me.... Plus she drinks beer constantly in front of us and let's her dogs drink it!) mom will make me sleep in my sister's really big (half the size of the bedroom) closet! My mom also doesn't have a job, and I want to stay with my dad. Both sides of the family are really mad at her, and my mom hasn't even told my sister yet!!!! My mom doesn't want me telling people she's gay, but I really need help.... so, please answer! Thank you.
2006-10-21 14:25:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this helps anyone, I'm 12...
2006-10-21 15:17:12 · update #1
Also, I already talked 2 the councelor a lot, we have another appointment on Monday. Plus we are trying to get in proffesional therapy...
2006-10-21 15:20:26 · update #2
How old are you? Past about 12 years old, the courts will listen to the wishes of the child as to which parent they want to stay with. The fact that you would be sleeping in the closet is probably enough to get the court to have you stay with your dad. Try and maintain a relationship with your mom, though. It's rocky now, but someday you'll need to talk to her about stuff only a mom can talk to you about.
2006-10-21 14:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling!- I mean that sincerely since I am from the south- I grew up with a best girlfiriend (straight) whose mom was lesbian- the first time I slept over, being young and naive, I asked her why her mom's roomate was sleeping in the same bed- and she got embarressed. Truth is- it never made a difference- people love as they will-thats it in a nutshell- the way society is set up is based on rules hundreds of years old and for the sake of survival-times change-breeding is no longer an issue- if anything there are too many people now so no one is sacred-your mom is probably from the old school neighborhood- where only straight wives are allowed and she is scared cause she married like she should and now has grown into the wisdom and strength to be who she is- I say love her and let it be- know this- SHE LOVES YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are why she got marrried when she did't want to---------:-)
2006-10-21 14:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. I'm sorry you are in such a pinch.
a) Can your dad take you = financially, residentially and such?
b) Talk to your school counselor about getting your voice heard.
c) Have you told your mom your feelings. She still loves you.
d) Sleeping in any closet/room w/o a exitable window is illegal.
e) Ask your parents to pay for some counseling on this one or find a youth pastor.
2006-10-21 14:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that your mom is abusing you then get out of that house. But to the matter of the mom and dad. Your mom is probably (she wont admit it or act like it) is hurt that the relationship turned out like it did. You need to support her no matter what she does. She needs you right now. if you don't feel comfortable with the way she dresses or the way she drinks talk to her about it. But don't get ugly about it. If you start to holler at her then she wont listen to a word you say. control yourself. Just talk to her it may help. if it doesn't then talk to your dad about moving in with him.
2006-10-21 14:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are things at your dad's? Seems as if you need to talk to your mom and let her know how you feel, but on the other hand, talk to your dad and see if you both agree that it would be better if you stayed with him. If he agrees, I'm sure he would do everything in his power to keep you with him.
2006-10-21 14:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Trice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is never easy and it is especially difficult when there are children involved. The best advice i can give you is to get professional help, maybe start with a school councilor or a teenage phone help line.
2006-10-21 14:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by MUSHMAN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have a choice of which parent you want to live with during the child custody agreement, so speak up and be truthful to the courts. i would be honest in the hearing, your future depends on it.don't worry the judge will not make you stay with your mom.
2006-10-21 14:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone finally files for divorce, find some way to tell the judge that you want "a guardian ad litem". That means you get your own attorney.
2006-10-21 14:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are sixteen or older you can choose which parent you will live with. the divorce court will allow you that right.
tell your dads lawyer.
even if you are younger, a good lawyer should be able to keep you and your sis with your dad if your dad has enough income to support you adequately.
2006-10-21 14:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your dad everything that is going on in the house and you wish to live with him as well ask your dad can you go to court to speak with the judge if that doesn't work try to talk with your guidance counselor at school
2006-10-21 14:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋