my husband and i are seperated 6 months..........5 months ago he moved in with his gf who he claims to love very much.......she is 21 he is 42........after 24 yrs of marrige (we are still married).....is it possible he does love her?
2006-10-21 14:23:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. Your husband is a ignoramous!!! He's stupid...still falling in love with a young 21 year old...how perverted is that or what? No wonder you guys seperated. Good luck!
2006-10-21 14:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by shewolf2899 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's really not.
She's fulfilling some need, and it probably isn't just sexual.
He needs to feel strong/successful/wise, all those things that you probably know him too well to make him feel without a little effort, but a 21 year old makes him feel just by being willing to spend time with someone old enough to be her father.
You need to think really hard. Is there more you can do? Is it worth it? Is it too late? I don't know.
I'm pretty sure that a man that remembers the fall of Vietnam can't find love with a woman that wasn't old enough to know what the fall of the Berlin Wall was all about.
2006-10-21 21:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably is LUST. He thinks he's hot to trot cause now he's got a 21yr old and in reality everyone that knows this thinks he's an idiot. Odds are he has underwear older than she. I can't figure these men out, my husband of 16 yrs is doing almost the same thing just not living together and she is 24. Mine is also 42yrs and maybe its a mid life thing I don't know. Maybe this is the decade (40's) when men turn stupid. I told mine if he moves in with the "girl" that participated in the demise of our marriage my kids will never go to his place of residence regardless of what any divorce decree states. They both are jackasses.
2006-10-21 21:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Gettcha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what you are going through, but, this is very possible. I'm 38 and in my first serious relationship ever with a 22 year old. We're very much in love and planning to become engaged. I was smart enough to wait because I knew that the male/female maturity factor was going to be more important than just hooking up with someone in my age bracket. My girlfriend and I have more in common than I ever had with the 20 something girls when I was 20 something myself.
2006-10-21 21:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but most likely it is just infatuation. A 42 year old would have nothing in common with a 21 year old. I think I agree with the middle age crisis answer.
2006-10-21 21:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess anything's possible, but in this case I'd say it's more likely he's in love with the idea than the girl. He's in love with the way she makes him feel. (Like a young stud.) It's something fresh, and new, and different. He's an idiot. Chances are it won't last. I really hope things get better for you! You deserve better than that dolt. Find yourself a great new man, and then when your husband comes crawling back, you can tell him to go pound sand.
2006-10-21 21:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose its possible but what a 42 year old man sees in a 21 year old woman other than a fine piece of tail. I dont see it lasting
2006-10-21 21:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey YES she is young and dumb more active in bed and willing to please him all around the board so yes he loves her and he is in love with her he looks at you and see old and dry not attractive anymore sorry but its the truth that's why he is with her but you don't sit around and be sad and lonely file for divorce and move on with your life yes it will be hard but you have to go shopping get a new hair new clothes shoes have a spa day decorate the house over girl go all out and all with his $ if he has any
2006-10-21 21:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. are you hoping that he does not love her? just because he is 42 an she is 21 doesn't mean anything but an age difference. some girls like older mor mature men.
2006-10-21 21:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing that popped in my head as soon as I read your question was "midlife crisis" . I saw glimpse of your first answer who also says the same thing. Men go through this during their 30s and 40s. they do things to make them feel younger, like date younger women, ride motorcycles, do stupid stuff, etc. is it possible that he loves her, maybe.... with the risk of AIDS and other diseases out there, let him go. if you do sleep with him, use protection. you may know who he sleeps with, but who is she sleeping with. or just RUN. that's always easier.....
2006-10-21 21:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋