my father in law has not worn his wedding ring in over a year they have only been married 2 years today he toke off work to go to six flags and did not tell his wife but he told her he would not take off for 2nd aniversary which is monday. he has gone out of town 4 times without telling his wife and she didnt find out til after he was gone he spends time with his ex wife while he is gone and he does not take his wife anywhere with him he will not even answer the phone when she calls. we all believe he is seeing someone else cuz he has a long history of it but she refuses to wake up and see it. she wants to know what you think is he cheating and what should she do
2006-10-21 14:09:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh and he wont have sex with her maybe once a week and he always stays out late at night and has strange # on his cell phone and people call him at 3 am
2006-10-21 14:19:10 · update #1
He IS cheating and she should divorce him.
2006-10-21 14:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that sounds like cheating to me...If she wants more evidence then she should hire a detective/private investigator,which I heard are not as expensive as everyone thinks,hell at least call and price it,and if he is cheating,then she should divorce him,because by guessing hes a full grown and older man,hes probably not gonna change,maybe she can try marriage counseling but that has to do with what she feels comfortable with,And if she wants to mend things.And she needs to put some emergency money some place safe,dont leave him unprepared,if they have joint account she better at least take her half.Talk to a lawyer.
2006-10-21 21:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by prettybelle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother in law to trust herself. Where there is smoke there is usually fire. Comfront her husband. Wearing or not wearing a wedding ring is neither here nor there. Going out of town and spending time with another woman is wrong. I'd be upset and be ready to throw his stuff out the door. She needs to find her self esteem and diginity and do what she needs to do. He makes himself happy. Now, she needs to find happiness for herself. Be strong. It is always the darkest before the light. Good luck.
2006-10-21 21:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by sherrylynn1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking instead of her? She already knows the answer and is trying to steady herself before she blows.....she just wants to know she has a support group. I hope you're ready for the fall out when she needs you....so many times everyone knows the cheater is a cheater and a bad person, but still they are family so the victim is victimized further. BE PREPARED to be alienated from the family for being a good person, and I hope you stick to your opinion, is your husband going to go up against his dad??? You really need to clarify this with him and your relationship before you save this poor woman....don't sacrifice your relationship with your husband if she doesn't want to face facts.
2006-10-21 21:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, by golly it is a duck. Of course he's cheating. Your mom in law needs to see him for what he really is. If she is not going to put up with it, she needs to leave. What's the use of continually going thru the mess he dishes out? All it leave her is frustrated in the end. Dump the loser and move on to something (or someone) more deserving of her time.
2006-10-21 21:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Trice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an unbelievably inconsiderate man. No woman deserves to be treated like that. It definitely sounds like he's cheating and not even trying very hard to hide it. She should start getting all of her ducks in a row - open up a bank account in her own name and start putting $ in there, pay for a lawyer out of their joint account, and look out for #1.
2006-10-21 21:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very suspicious, but it's none of your business even if she is your mother in law. It sounds like you have already warned her. She may not want to know. Sooner or later the truth will come out. Just be there for her. You sound like a wonderful daughter in law. Bless you for caring.
2006-10-21 21:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she feels he is no longer providing her the attention and love she has known in the past, then it is likely he is cheating.
She should go to a marriage counselor, preferably with him.
2006-10-21 21:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he's cheating, but it doesn't seem like a happy marriage. I think they should go to counseling if they cannot talk about it.
2006-10-21 21:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure sounds like it to me. I'd be asking him SOME SERIOUS questions. Play detective. If his phone shows her number,use some other phone to call him. Follow his ***.
2006-10-21 21:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by willis_is_40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh, like they say, a leopard can't change his spots. Sounds like Mom needs a good laywer and a new set of locks....
If it were me, I would take everything and let him rot in hell....
Good luck.
2006-10-21 21:15:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anurri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋