in the last year me and my spouse had sex only 3 times. we are more friends than husband and wife. i also recently learned that my spouse is bi. this guy at work is funny and he asked me 2 go 2 a bar close to our work. i work an hour from home and he is local. i did turn him down both times. i felt it was flirting but i do not know if i am looking too much into it. i would like to get to know him better. this guy is hot and he is an oldfashioned kind of guy.
2006-10-21 13:08:01 · 20 answers · asked by lookn4romance 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you tried talking to your husband about this lack of attention and sex in your mariage? Perhaps it is time for you to start communicating with him. Let him know your worries...
2006-10-21 13:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by goodman6079 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if kids are involved- you have any? Does the other guy have any secrets beside your own by expressing said sexual interest? Re-evaluate your ' ideal ' in marriage and talk to one another. What's missing that makes you want to seek out a relationship with another individual? He's "hot and old-fashioned", sounds like a two-way street; you need to decide which road to take and what direction in life you plan to take. Being in a phase that would jeopradize your current marriage and especially if children are involved is complex and not fairly looking into all consequences of actions. I wish you the best of luck in your decisions.
2006-10-21 13:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing with my first husband.
I am now divorced from him for 11 years.
No wonder he does not make love to you......
follow your heart. In this case, a divorce would not be wrong, under my point of view and even at Church's point of view.
Being old-fashioned does not mean he is not hot. ONe things does not have to do with the other. The guy is not dead. I only think you should wait to go for another guy. But as your username indicates you already are looking for romance. Right??????
2006-10-21 13:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is really an "old fashioned" klind of guy and he's a nice guy too, he probably won't want to be responsible for helping you to comitt adultery would he? Divorce your pansy husband or go to counseling. Don't drag a third party into this already messed up relationship..in other words, settle your first problem before starting a new relationship or you will be doomed for failure.
2006-10-21 13:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by blondambition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first you need to tell your husband that you do not want to be apart of his second life and he is bi sexual and that could cause problems if he is doing the nasty with men . so you need to end the relationship with your husaband and then start a relationship with this new guy because you do not want to start off on a bad foot .
2006-10-21 13:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you want some, then set-up a meeting and go for it! You're not getting any at home and you're making the efforts! Have a hot time and feel good about it! Don't go overboard but let him know you want some!! BE HAPPY!
2006-10-21 13:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry Lee Stinson IV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was oldfashioned,why would he fool with a married chick?
2006-10-21 13:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by LightningSlow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are getting wet in your lower side this is dangerous, you may flag white if you fell ready for adventure!, if you are ot adventurist keep away! and you may have husband role with a plactic dick through your bi-husband
2006-10-21 13:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not okay..
but since you and your spouse don't sizzle anymore and you really like the new guy, you should give your happyness a chance
2006-10-21 13:12:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then your marrage is over. There is no need to stay where you are if you want to be somewhere else.
2006-10-21 13:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jack S. Buy more ammo! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋