I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful husband, I am very blessed. The only thing is that he says that I don't show him appreciation. He feels like I don't give enough in the relationship (to him that is) or "care" about his needs. I guess I have been so wrapped up with raising our 4 year old son and now our new baby girl that I have put my husband and even myself on the lower level of priorities. What are some little things that I can do to show him I care and that I still desire him? Thanks! :)
2006-10-21 12:30:38 · 12 answers · asked by Lala Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A BJ works for most men.
2006-10-21 12:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Even though people gave a thumbs down to the guys who said oral sex, they're totally right. Most guys like that even more than intercourse. That's a really nice thing to do for someone.
Of course, there are other things too. Pick out an outfit for him to wear to work and tell him you think he looks incredibly sexy when he wears it. Put his towel in the dryer while he's taking a shower so it'll be toasty for him when he gets out. Give him a full body massage while he watches the game (or not- he might be too into the game to relax enough, lol).
2006-10-21 21:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently the door swings both ways. It sounds like he needs to help a little more with the kids. If you have more help there is more time to spend with him. Wonderful or not both of you have not been doing some things. He may feel that way but it is selfish in his way of thinking. Get a babysitter for one or two days out of the week. Take a day for you two to just spend time with each other. You can't apologize for being wrapped up in your children but there needs to be some alone time for the two of you. Even the best of relationships need time with each other. Take the time now to be with each other. Even if it's for an hour or two each day. Make time for each other.
2006-10-21 19:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be feeling that you're having to pay all your attention to the new baby and not have any time for him (which we all know you should be paying attention to the new baby - and - your four year old). If he's like most men, it won't take much to show him you that you appreciate him. Until he feels differently, try not to do some things that you can do while he's at work, like laundry, paying bills, yacking on the phone, etc. You already knows how we he'd like to be awakened, that'll show him for sure
2006-10-21 19:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can say the to your husband what you have written to us, that he is wonderful and that you feel blessed to have him in your life and in your children's life. Listen to his needs and if possible try to give your husband his own alone time with you after you put the kids to bed. Save dessert for the two of you to get reacquainted with each other over candlelight. A little affection goes a long way in marriages.
Best wishes for you!
2006-10-21 19:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by MissyT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to get so wrapped up in living that we tend to put our needs and spouses on the back burner, esp when we have children. I try to let my husband know that he's still special to me by making him his favorite dinners, I'll put the kids to bed early and we'll watch a movie together. Show him that you desire him by making the first move. Romanctic moments rarely just happen, but have to be carefully planned out. For a man sex is not just a physical act, but its his way of expresssing his need for closeness and tenderness. Maybe you need to try to deepen your emotional connection with each other. It involves both talking and touching, both non sexual and sexual acts of tenderness and affection. Pray about it, God is faithful and with God on your side who can be against you.
2006-10-21 20:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by kittykat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you BOTH could use some couple time. Is there anyone who could watch your boy for the night? If so...make a date. go out for a nice dinner....maybe a show...you know date stuff *S*. Get back to the important things in life....you and him. If you can not get someone to watch the boy....then after he goes to bed...just spend the rest of the evening together...talk cuddle what ever just have "Us time"
2006-10-21 19:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens in all marriages dear...stop stressing...make a nice dinner...get a babysitter...watch a nice move(porn) enjoy each other...even if its not often...life is busy..you need to make time for each other once in a while.....enjoy.
2006-10-21 20:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking care of HIS children IS showing him appreciation...sounds to me as if he's just a wee bit spoiled and selfish.
2006-10-21 20:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all your name STACY, and this name is not good for a good WIFE, you may begin chancing your name!
You say he is wonderful that you see his behaviours and judge it by this and make your decision "wonderful", so why dont you try such behaviours, you may do your overbest!!!!
2006-10-21 19:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋