okay my cousin wants me to ask this for her. the question is:
How can i be more relaxed around my boyfriend?
i love him like hell but i get really self concious around him...any advice?
2006-10-21 12:26:09 · 18 answers · asked by [blahh] ™ 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
How can he be her boyfriend if she's nervous and self-concious all the time? How did he ever get to know her in the first place then? If he's her boyfriend without really knowing her personality then chances are he's just using her for sex. Dump him. You need to be comfortable around the person you're with. And you don't need to be used by anyone.
2006-10-21 12:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by elk312 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use my "Japanes garden" method. Pick some place that really makes you feel calm. Like a garden, a poll of water with some leaves floating in it, a mountain top, etc. Then concentrate for a while in creating that image and fixing it in your mind. You want to be able to "go" there right away any time you want. So practice calling that exact image up over and over. Then, when you start to feel nervous or hyper, just take a second and go to your calm spot: the place that will make you relax. :)
2006-10-21 19:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be confident and don't be shy.
sometimes guys are turned off by someone who has a low self-esteem so like i said be confident, love Ur self, no matter what say to Ur self that i am a beautiful person,
always remember that he is not better then u, know that u don't have to feel unselfconscious around him because if he does not like u for who u are,then he is not a good boyfriend,always be Ur self......Good luck
.....L8rs
2006-10-21 19:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are really trully in love with someone you should feel relaxed when you are with them. Is he a new boyfriend? We normally feel like this when we are trying to impress someone, the more we get to know them, the more relaxed we become.
2006-10-21 19:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by cheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try thinking of him as a friend still a boyfriend but think of him as one of your close friends. then gradually do things the way you would do it, but little by little, like slouching in an chair, or say something but make it funny like something funny that happened in your family that happened funny or a commercial, and do it slowly, don't go to the nitty girtty fast start slow. then it will come naturally.
2006-10-21 19:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you arent already relaxed around him then u must not know him very well. spend more time with him and just be yourself. if he makes u uncomfortable then u need a new boyfriend.
2006-10-21 19:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by mcr712 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fart.
Okay, okay. Ways to be relaxed include conversation. Be honest, be yourself. If you can't be comfortable with yourself you can't be with your boyfriend.
2006-10-21 19:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by randomidentification 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her to be herself she shouldnt be shy or feel weird around him he should love her no matter how she acts an if he cts weird when shes herself then maybe hes not the right guy or you can tell him how your feeling an then go from there =)
2006-10-21 19:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, wait a few years until you get a little older and wiser!!
2006-10-21 19:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by bobemac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get really self conscious around him? And what's wrong with that?
2006-10-21 19:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by zap 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋