I've known (or at least I thought) my girlfriend for eight months now. We started to date six months ago, and eventually became boyfriend and girlfriend. Everything was going well, when suddenly she disappeared. Never answer her phone nor returned calls. I visited her mother's place, but she told me she found a new place to live close by. It turns out that she went back with her exboyfriend...
What should I do? Pay them a visit? Keep calling? Our just dissapear like she wants me to? I just don't want to do anything that might hurt her even though she left me like when one forgets a thing in a public place :(
Thanks for reading.
Fire in the Sky~
2006-10-21 12:24:43 · 21 answers · asked by Jorm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, you really got scr**d. She did you wrong. I can understand you caring for her & not wanting to hurt her, but I believe I'd have to get in touch with her just to ask how she could do that to you.
2006-10-21 12:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, sorry to hear about this. This will always be an unhealed injury that you'll forever try to figure out why it happened, even if you DO get a chance to talk with her one-on-one. She broke it off with you, in a very unseemly way, I might add. You're probably going over every little conversation you had up to the point where she quit calling trying to pinpoint the reason for the breakup. It'll never be enough. My point is, write her an e-mail or send her a letter, spill EVERYthing in that letter, get everything off of your chest. Your anger, your pain, your curiousity about why she broke it off, then let it go. Explanations will never quench your thirst for knowledge.
Hang in there, time will heal most of this wound and remember, it wasn't you, per se, that she rejected, rather, it was the relationship (right guy/wrong time).
I feel for you right now . . .
2006-10-21 19:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man ! move on with ur life and don`t even think of looking back. Don`t attempt to get in touch with her, all that would do is feed her ego. She severed the relationship, so whats left to know. The pain will ease in time and u will find someone else. Meanwhile, go out with ur friends, keep busy and if u find urself thinking of her, think about the negative side, not whatever was positive in the relationship. U don`t want to hurt her..ha, what about ur hurt......How soon we forget !
2006-10-21 19:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but, you were the "in between" man. She used you until her man was ready to commit. Move on! Just make sure that you are up on your game for the next woman. Casually ask questions about her last relationship, but don't get too personal too quick.
As for the one who left you hanging. There's no point in trying to see her. You have no idea of what you might be walking into with her man. It's best to disappear just like she wanted you to. Nothing good will come to her for treating you the way that she did.
Good Luck!
2006-10-21 19:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Breeze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger person would say "Who cares, walk away she's not worth your time." Depending on what you are feeling would depend on your action. If you really don't care, walk away. If it bothers you a little tell one of her friends or her mother how you feel and ask them to pass it on...however if you are really truly upset, find out where she lives with her new oh so perfect boyfriend and explain to them at the same time what a lieing, cheating, self-indulgent, worthless human being she is." But hey that's just my opinion.
2006-10-21 19:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by sadiaelena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just forget about her, no matter how hard it may be. I had the same thing happen to me, today actually, and its very hard to move on, but I am going to forget about him and keep living my life. The right person will come along sometime, and obviously she wasnt the right one for you if she didnt care about you enough to be monogomous.
2006-10-21 19:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by mylady_2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk away clean, brother! she isnt worth stressing about! she used you to get even with her ex and went running back to him when he called. you are an innocent bystander caught in a lovers vicious game. the best thing you can do for yourself is leave her alone. if she wants to explain why she did what she did listen if you feel you must but other than that dont have anything to do with her or she will do it to you again.
2006-10-21 19:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tough for you I bet. I can tell by the way that you talk about this and by the simple fact that you don't know what to do, that you really want to work it out with her. I don't want to tell you what to do because I'm just a stranger. Do what's in your heart. I know if she's with someone else it's because she has something she feels she can't say to you. Find out what it is she needs to admit to you.
2006-10-21 19:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by shortskirtmakeitwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. Obviously, she was'nt the person that you thought she was, and certainly she was'nt very mature. Its best that you just move on with your life and chalk it up to life experience. Your pursuing her will only prolong things for you. Rest assured that " what goes around, comes around ". Her karma will eventually catch up with her.
2006-10-21 19:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give her the time of day, her sorry..***.. mother either. Sounds like she's doing you a favor....consider yourself lucky to be out of this trash pile relationship you were in (and didn't know it).
2006-10-21 19:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋