a MAN not a BOY tells you he still cares for you? My husband and I are seperated and have been for a little over six months...and he keeps telling me that he still cares for me. We have two small children together and he is a great dad to them. I was just wondering what he meant when he says he still cares for me and about me. Please no smart answers, I'm being serious here. I just want to know what he means by saying it. I know he has a girlfriend and he's happy with his new life...but does him caring for me give me reson to hope that he might come back to me? I don't want to hope falsely I just want to understand more about what he means.
2006-10-21 12:17:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we ARE NOT divorced...we are seperated...and moving on is not an option for me. I'll never find anyone that I'll ever love as much as him...and I'll never find anyone who can love me like he did.
2006-10-21 12:25:56 · update #1
It means he still cares about u as a person as u have been, at one time, an important part of his life and you're also the mother of his children. His feelings for u isnt' something he can just turn on and off like a light switch and even though he has a new girlfriend, his feelings for u are still there and may always be there.
I don't know if hoping for him to come back to u is the right thing to do as only u can answer that but if I were in this situation, I
wouldn't expect anything from him.
2006-10-21 12:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not a mind reader and sorry you had two children with a Boy,not a man(of course I'm only assuming since I don't know why he left) he probablt really does care about you a lot but he has a girlfriend,thats not a good sign,at least in a relationship.If he did come back to you(depending again on why you split) what makes you think he still would have a girlfriend???And a great Dad would've worked things out or seperated without a girlfriend,so he's a good father but not a great one,After only six months tells me he either knew her already,or he's given up on you two getting back together(at least as a family) Sorry but thats my take on it.....Good Luck
2006-10-21 12:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband probably really does still care about you, but does he still love you? Chances are that when his current girlfriend wises up and dumps him, he probably will come back to you, but for how long? You are the mother of his kids so he has an obligation to them to stay on talking terms with you. Now, if he really and truly loved and cared about you, hed be back with you working things out instead of being with some bimbo. You will eventually see the light and come to a point of enough is enough and start to move on to a better life with someone new and sue your current for divorce and get everything that you are legally entitled to. If you decide to, unless you have charges of child or drug/mental abuse against you, the courts will award you custody of your children, support and the house and possible spousal support. Good luck
2006-10-21 12:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, when he tells you he cares for you it does not mean he wants to get back with you. When you are married for a certain length feeling grow. Though he has feelings he probably means just that. He cares for you. He's basically telling you that he wants you to be happy too. If anything talk to him about it. What did you two seperate for in the first place get with him and ask him. Do not get your hopes up. A relationship takes two people. If he is truly happy in his relaitonship then let him be, but if you can work it out with him I am very happy for you. All the best to you either way.
2006-10-21 12:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get your hopes up. You were married and you're the mother of his children. He's always going to care about you. But there's a big difference in caring about someone and being in love. Move on & find someone who LOVES you, not just cares about you.
2006-10-21 12:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I think It means...
He does care about you, but he isn't interested in being with you Right Now. I think he wants to keep you hanging by a string just in case things dont work out with his new life and he wants to make sure you will still be available. i think You are going to be hurt very bad when you finally realize this, but you will be stronger when you are able to move on. and when You do I hope you let us know. good Luck!!!!!
2006-10-21 12:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lees' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cares and part of him wishes he would have stayed . but sometimes pride gets in the way and we try not to show the weak side we put up a good front and humble our selves as best as possible. invite him out to lunch somewhere open no romantic places and ask him what he means. tell him to give you a honest answer and accept what ever he says either bad or good.
2006-10-21 12:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by buddy love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right at this moment I wouldn't expect he would come back to you since he has a g/f and is happy with her.. I have to say that I "care" for one of my es-wives whom I have been divorced from for about 41 years....That he "cares" for you is not unusual....
I think I would move on with my life if I were you...
2006-10-21 12:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still cares for you ? means he allows you a child support by financial support he wanted to prove he cares for your! No you won't expect him to be back,if so he may not have choose the way of divorce.Let him enjoy with his girl friend in his new life and you enjoy your own new life.Just forget the past,think about presence and future!
2006-10-21 12:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he means he cares about you because you are the mother of his children. I guess the only way you will know is to ask him.
2006-10-21 12:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋