I am just recently divorced after 34 yrs It was not an easy marriage as alot of mental abuse was in it But I worry that my ex isnt eating right and taking care of himself Is this normal or just that I havent forgotten what we had together I am in a new and wonderful relationship with a wonderful man But I still worry about my ex
2006-10-21 11:42:39 · 18 answers · asked by chubbycheeks012003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are showing signs of that you really care and will most likey have these feelings for a long time if not your entire life. You were with this person for thirty-four years and it is going to take some time to not feel a part of this individual regardless of your feelings for another person. This is normal. You are normal. It will probably always be in you to be concerned about your ex and you should just accept it. He was lucky.
2006-10-21 11:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen after someone has been through many yrs of mental abuse they get used to feeling guility and worried over the person be strong and concerate on your new current healthier realtionship and your ex hub is a grown man let him worry if he is eating right or not so be strong and move on and be happy you deserve it
2006-10-21 11:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will. Even though you are divorced it doesn't change the fact that you love him. You love your relationship now but the caring about him will never stop. My mother and father have been divorced for over 15 years now. They still talk to each other though both of their lives have moved on. It is completely normal.
2006-10-21 11:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think this is normal, after being with someone for so long, it is going to take time for you to move on. Try taking it to God, and leaving it their, who better can you leave to take care of him. Think of it, as he is a big boy now. If he acted right, you would still be their. So these are the choices that he made. You have been through so much, so now you have to think of yourself, this is your chance to be happy, let him go, and you need to start to live, God, has given you another chance. Enjoy it!
2006-10-21 12:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, since he has been a part of your life for such a long time. I think it's more of a habit than anything else but u have to remember that u are no longer responsible for him anymore. Concentrate on your new relationship and don't let your worries interfere with it.
2006-10-21 12:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you had feelings for 34 years for this man you had a routine down you cant just cut that off like a piece of unwanted fat from a steak..you will have to slowly over time learn to quit doing this..you have a good heart and you worry about people thats ok..
2006-10-21 11:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce ends the marriage, not your feelings. Try to move on and be happy in your current life. Do not let him still control you.
2006-10-21 13:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Left Alone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's natural. You spent 34 years with him. That is a long time to be with someone and feelings don't go away overnight.
-You deserve what you have now. He had 34 years to make it right! Enjoy yourself..you deserve it!
-Try to find closure. Your current spouse needs your attention now.
2006-10-21 12:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sal G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, you had been with him for 34 years. Of course you still care about him, you don't want to be with him, but you still care and always will.
2006-10-21 12:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋