I am not happy with what I got but I dont know that I can get out of it because I have tried but I keep coming back
2006-10-21 11:36:19 · 15 answers · asked by elizabeth b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't help you. All I can say is I thought me and my hubby were over. I thought I was out of love with him. When we got counceling and worked it out I found out I am more in love with him than ever and we have been going strong now for a decade. I hope things work out. Happiness and true happiness doesn't come from selfishness.
2006-10-21 11:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is Why are you depending on someone else for your happiness it is clear that this is what you're doing because you keep going back and yes you can to get out of it if in fact thats what you want to do no one makes you do anything you dont want to do if you want out you will get out unless you are in a comfort zone with that being said no one can answer this question here only you know the real answer to your own question.
2006-10-21 11:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm ask yourself "why do i keep coming back?"
my guess is it is one of these few reasons:
1. Afraid of being alone
2. You are not good at meeting new people
3. the sex is just that damn good!
4. You feel sorry for the person you dumped
Well all 4 of those reasons are probably not a justified cause to be in a relationship.. some of them are harder to fix than others but, I think a good first step is be truthful with yourself and realize why exactly you keep getting back with this person.
2006-10-21 11:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by travis R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm...it sounds like you didn't like being by yourself. You gave in the minute he/she begged you to come back, without standing up for yourself. It is so hard to start over and be on your own, I know, I had to do just that after 18 years. Getting out, cutting those bloody ties, is hard, painful and a major test. The longer you stay free...the more you start to get in tune with the 'real' you. You will find strength and much power in yourself. If you need any help.....let me know, I will be a friend for you.
2006-10-21 11:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tyanna d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously gaining someting or you wouldn't be going back. Look to what was modeled in your home by your parents or parent in relationships displayed in front of you. This is the most likely area where we, as developing beings, learnt how to make the choices that we make. Chances are you are doing nothing more than what was shown to you. If it is not working for you then stop doing it. You have permission. You give it to yourself.
2006-10-21 11:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming that you are talking about a relationship? Make a decision and then stick with it. Many things are hard but it takes work to be happy. Life is too short to be unhappy.
2006-10-21 11:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by thekidzmamajojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fear the unknown. Going back to the hell that you know is better than the heaven that you do not know. Muster the courage for change. If you keep crawling back to the hole that you know and feel secure in, you will never be able to see what's beyond the horizon.
2006-10-22 21:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
? Maybe you need a change of scenary. Like a long vacation to think about your life.
2006-10-21 11:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by brooke992002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to create happiness in your own life.
2006-10-21 11:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like you have a very low self-esteem - you have to start believing in yourself.
2006-10-21 11:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋