is it better to get married young?

Question

i married at 20 and i think it has helped us to grow together in our marriage.what do u think?

i'd like to know where certain people are getting their divorce "statistics" from.
The rates of divorce are rapidly growing, yes this is cultural, but people are getting married much much older now also. Do you think there is any correlation? My theory is that many of the couples who marry older, have previous baggage, and are also determined to hold on to their their individuality. I think its very important to retain your individuality within a marriage but the downside is that you may have become more selfish and uncompromising.
I think that many young couples do marry young when they are not mature enough to accept the responsibility, but those that do have an advantage in growing and learning about themselves and thyeir relationship together.

also, i do not think that age is necessarily a governing factor over how much a person has enjoyed their single life or how much they have experienced. There is only so much partying you can do before it becomes quite dull, self-indulgent and self-destructive.

Answer 1

God Bless good 4 u and your other half. Make it work.

Answer 2

I agree with your theory 150%. I was married at age 19. I dated many guys from the time I was 15 to about 18. Including my husband! I was able to get an idea of what I liked and did not like in a guy. Also I had my parents as a model marriage (which i also did not like). I think too though, that the divorce rate is higher because society over the years has made it socially acceptable to get a divorce. Can anyone honestly say that their grandparents did not get a divorce because they were in love the whole time? Or that they always got along? If they do, they're full of it. When my grandparents were raising their family, it was socially unacceptable to get divorced, or for the wife to 'disobey' her husband, or for them to even air out their dirty laundry. Her friends and family never knew they had problems, and if he had an affair it was so incredibly discreet that the woman he cheated with didn't even know!!! So there for, our current day marriage society could benefit in many ways if we refused divorce, didn't blab (complain) to our friends and family, and if we did what our spouses wanted from us more often.

And, by waiting until you're in your late 20's or early 30's to get married and start a family, you have too much time to meet singles, travel, buy lots of electronic toys etc etc. Then the family obligations come and you feel resentful of the kids and spouse because it's not all yours anymore. It's human nature. When you marry right out of highschool, you never experience that. There will be a time for travel and toys, after the kids are grown...but then you can share it together. Waiting for your career to jump off is unrealistic too. My husband worked 3 jobs in the beginning, so I could stay home with the babies. Now, I am the ONLY stay at home mom / wife out of our friends AND family...and we make more than double what the median income is! And we save wisely and spend carefully, because we have a better understanding of what being poor is like. Our kids are well adjusted too, but they have all they need. Need being the operative word. :-)

Answer 3

No, I married young as well. We entered our marraige thinking it was a piece of cake. Counseling and time is what brought us together. I think there are exceptions to the rule, but I think for the most part that people who marry when they are young tend to look at marriage as something you do, rather than being one. Which you are but at the same time you are keeping your individuality and not trying to change each other to fit your wants and desires. It's what makes marriage so difficult. Don't forget finances. Generally at that age a person is not financially sound. It causes rifts and conflicts arise. Most of all it depends on the responsibility a person is willing to take and whether you can keep from being to selfish in a marriage. The first two years we were in counseling but now it is like I am in love all over again.

Answer 4

The odds are pretty much stacked against people married at young age (18 to 24) though. As a lot of young marriages end in divorce. Face it, at that age your still pretty immature and learning things in life, just starting out on your own, etc. Of course, one may prove statistics wrong and be happily married forever, if it happens, then that's great. But chances are, it won't happen. If they truly love each other, have respect for one another, get along great and can work out their differences when they have them, then chances are their marriage will work. They have to be compatible for it to work but same is imported for mature people to work on marriage.

Answer 5

I was 23 and my wife19 when we got married. After 30yrs. of marriage we are now getting divorced. I would recommend marriage between 28 and 30. You have to experience life before committing.

Answer 6

I think its not a great idea. I think you shoudl wait till you have established everything you want out of life. Once you got it made and want to share it with a family then you go for it. If i had the mindset that i have now back then I would not make the stupid choices i have made.

Answer 7

Congratulations! I have found that marrying young leads to people growing apart as they age. That in turn leads to broken marriages and young children living with one parent.

Answer 8

oh god NO!... you don't know how much your missing out on in life.. chances are your gonna wake up being 30 and realize it was a huge mistake. If not, then your one of the lucky .5 %. Young marriges just don't last these days.

Answer 9

Too young, people change. But who knows, true love is forever. I hope you have a permanent and happy marriage. Good luck.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

20 is good some might say it's to young but it's much better when every thing on the body is working and smoth