After losing a loved one, how do you get back to your normal life?

Answer 1

Life may never be again as you knew it before your loved one passed. Take your time and grieve in your own way. As you feel stronger began reaching out to your friends again. Take baby steps and don't put yourself through gilt trips. No one person is the same. We all do things in our own time and fashion. Just remember life does go on and their are a lot of family and or friends who still love and want you in their life to share there memory's and make new ones. As you began to open your heat again you will see that your loved one is happy where they are now and they would want you to not stop living because there gone. Some day you will re unit with them. So for now when your ready make new memory's and special moments. And smile when you think of them while doing so. Life is so precious live today as if it were your last. Make each moment count and you will find peace in that. What is normal it's different for each one of us. Only you know when your ready to reach out and begin living, laughing and loving. May god bless you and heal your mind, spirit and soul from this tragic time in your life. God bless you and I hope this has helped you in some small way.

Answer 2

You take all the love you have for that person along with all the sweet memories you can remember and you carry them in your heart so that everyday you can take them out and think of them and smile. You focus on the fact that the person is beyond pain and beyond hate and the way this world is going. You pray to god for strength to handle saying goodbye, knowing it won't be forever. If you feel the urge, you talk to them where ever you may be. You do not need a gravesite, all that holds is the empty shell of a body. You talk to them anywhere anytime and think about how they would have responded. And sometimes you will get lucky enough to hear their laughter on the wind...

Answer 3

My younger brother died of a massive heart attack at 29 yrs old. I cried every day for six months. That was 4 months after I had broken off a 3 year relationship with my boyfriend for his severe alcoholism. Me personally, I was ready to make an appt to get put on anti-depressants. But I decided to try something else first. I tried to figure out the me that I was prior to my relationship with the ex-boyfriend. When I did, I SLOWLY started going out and doing the things I used to like doing. It has been 2 1/2 yrs. I still miss my little brother. I still have a day every now and then that I cry. I will ALWAYS miss him, but I can at least remember the good times now, without the guilt and anger I felt when he died. I do know that there are still going to be times I cry...times he will miss out on. He will miss being there when his only niece graduates high school and college and when she gets married. Those were things he always talked about. He was giong to be the one to walk her down the aisle when she did get married. But we all know that he will be there for her. In her heart and ours.

Answer 4

I lost my brother back in 1992 to a drunk driver. It was very hard because he was in a coma for a month before he actually died. But, taking it one day at a time helped. Remembering the laughs you had and all the good times helped. Knowing without a doubt they are in a better place. Faith and prayer really got me through. I still miss him dearly, but I tend to smile now more when I think of how wonderful of a man he was as a brother and what a great husband he was to his wife and what a great father he was to his kids. You can't rush the mourning process, every one mourns at their own pace. You take all the time you need. I am sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers. God Bless.

Answer 5

You need to be more specific. Do you mean losing like through death or a break up?

Death: In most cases time will heal. You never get over the lose but learn to cope.

Break Up: Again, time will heal and you will get over it if you work at it by getting on with your life, enjoy the company of friends, be active, soon some one will come along and make you wonder what you saw in the previous person in the first place.

Answer 6

I'm sure that a professional could help you on this...but in the short term there are always medication like Xanax or Valium. The only thing is that these meds can be habit forming....but they work incredibly well in the short term.

Grief though is a natural part of a loss, so if you can do it without meds great, but just know that they are there as an option

Answer 7

for me, my life will never be the same since i lost my brother. i still think about him almost every day, i'm just more comforted now in knowing that he's having a good life in heaven. i just asked god to take all my pain and grief, and that really helped me just let go because i knew that i didn't have to carry that load anymore.

Answer 8

I also lost my husband of 35 years two years ago. by praying and staying close to God Jehovah and Jesus Christ. it is very hard dealing with things. stay busy. I still cry at night. the bed is empty. I am so sorry to hear of your lost love one. do what I do also. remember the good times you did together.

Answer 9

im sorry for you that is a really sad sad sad sad feeling i have ha that happen to me 3 TIMES you try to move on and live the rest of your life while you still can and have a specil moment in the week just to sit down and remember all the moments with them and let out the sadness then just get on with your life

Answer 10

my husband has been dead 4 years i miss him a lot was married for 37year's but i try to keep my forcus on doing what god has ordain me to do. so one day i will have a chance to see him again i'am raiseing my grandchildren the way i know he would have wanted me to. it has been a struggle everyday but all i have to do is call on jesus and he hear's my plea get close to the lord that is the only way