when you wake up and suddenly you see your husband talking to a new nighbor talking to a lady and you didn't have no idea who that lady is. This lady asked favor also if she can used some electricity plug and externion cord. then asked also if she can use the home phone to talk to her brother and my husband give him his cell phone so she can call her brother. Is this appropriate attitude. or I should not get upset or jealous. what do you think guys ? I need your response. I had and argument over to my husband this morning and my husband said I'm crazy for getting mad over this.
2006-10-21 10:57:49 · 16 answers · asked by rauma_raumamary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hell no I wouldn't be ok with someone tapping into my electricity that I pay for. Sounds like your neighbor is a moocher and your husband is allowing her to use what him and you pay for. If he bitches about the electric bill being extra high, tell him to take it up with the neighbor.
2006-10-21 11:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will all depend on the health of the relationship between you and your husband. If your husband don't have any history of cheating on you, as well as you two living well together.
Secondly if she keeps coming around under the pretense of wanting to use the phone to call her brother, some extension cord etc.......There is every case to be on your guard. Even the best of marriages have their test of temptation and what not to over come. Like the Chinese proverbs says " A Woman's heart is like a pin at the bottom of the ocean " You being a woman will have a pretty good idea what to look for signs that your husband is too close to that woman.
Thirdly : I would not give a woman i hardly know my mobile to make a call. Knowing how women are nosy with no offense to you intended. She can as well try and get some personal information off the mobile if she happen to be some were were people can't observe her as some women and men are good con artist.
Observe this relationship and keep speaking your mind, not to mention if this woman is a good looking woman.
2006-10-21 11:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are overreacting. What if it had been a guy. Would you get upset if he was talking to a new male neighbor? What if a new male neighbor had asked him for an extension cord? What if a new male neighbor didn't have a phone installed yet and wanted to call his family to let them know he was in the new house and okay...would you be upset? Was he just supposed to ignore her? Is he not allowed to talk to any woman at all? What if it had been you? What if you had moved into a new home and you asked your next door neighbor to use his phone and his wife flipped out over you talking to him? Wouldn't you be insulted and shocked by that? Try looking at this from different perspectives and hopefully you will see that you are probably making some false assumptions.
Sounds like you have some trust issues. If he's cheated before, that may be why you are upset. If you were hurt by someone else before, you're punishing him for someone else's mistakes - trust a little.
2006-10-21 11:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by aerowrite 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think I must have the same personality as you because that would really bug me too. I would feel as if it could be giving the other woman the wrong idea. I trust my husband, but I wouldn't want some other woman thinking he was flirting with her. I WOULD BE MAD. He's giving her the wrong idea. Tell him he doesn't need to be that"friendly" with the lady neighbors unless you are there with him.
2006-10-21 11:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Baby #1 born August 2009 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the more you get mad, the more upset you are going to make him.
Instead, why don't you just get all dolled up, and go introduce yourself to the neighbour. Let her know that you live there as well as your wonderful husband, and that you are SURE that you yourself would be able to help her if she may find herself short of something?
In the meantime, you're giving her all sorts of subliminal messages that are saying "KEEP YOUR PAWS OFF MY MAN *****!" Women are usually very good at reading this language, and your hubby won't have a clue.
2006-10-21 11:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's stupid to get mad over that.
She probably just came to ask for help. Don't get jealous just because the neighbor is female - ti only shows insecurity on your part.
If you're worried, how about you strike up a friendship with this new neighbor yourself? After all, they say, keep your friends close and your enemies closer. See if she's any threat.
2006-10-21 11:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems you have trust issues stemming from somewhere. If you trusted him - you wouldn't think twice about him helping a new neighbor - who.. needed some help. My advice... dig into why you don't trust him - and deal with that because it's going to destroy you - and whatever you may have. And...If you can't trust him and he's given you reason not to trust him in the past - stop the cycle and decide not to live like that anymore. You deserve better. Remember that.
God Bless.
Proverbs 31
2006-10-21 11:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by skevans 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your husband is right. He was only talking to her for crying out loud. She had just moved in and needed a little help..big deal. Dont look for problems where there are none...you will get your share of real problems through your life. If she was old and ugly you wouldnt have cared less if he talked to her.
2006-10-21 11:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he was just being nice. If your upset about it just go introduce yourself to the neighbor, then she'll know your man is taken.
2006-10-21 11:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Shell 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why you made with him cause he fall for the thrifling ***** trick, he cant help it. what you need to do is get with her when your husband is not around and tell her to take her trifling *** to her other neighors house cause the next time you see her , there wont be no talking. See me?
2006-10-21 11:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by METOO 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋