i walked in on my husband with his sister in law in the hot tub and i do not know how to react to it said he was just comforting her for her loss but i dont think he was
2006-10-21 10:51:39 · 13 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he had his arm around her and was messaging her with her bikini strings off
2006-10-21 10:55:55 · update #1
go with your instinct. This is way too bizarre to be normal
2006-10-21 10:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by nick 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So he needed to soak in the hot tub with her? I think they could have waited until you got home, or when other people were around or could join the party. I mean I know that a hot tub can be a very relaxing place, and can be used to destress a person, but maybe he could have offered the hot tub to her, and talked with her out side of the hot tub later, or just sat on the side. I mean I guess it depends on how close your family is, and if you would completely trust the two of them. I understand your apprehension or concern, but really if your family is close (which I assume they are because she felt like she could turn to her husbands brother), then really I would not worry about it. It can be an uncomfortable situation for you, but if her husband just died, then I think the LAST thing that would have been going on in that hot tub was romantic. Just tell your husband that it took you off guard and it was uncomfortable for you to see that. Just gain a perspective and see if you think you are overreacting.
2006-10-21 10:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by CBL123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?! I don't think conforting someone leads you to a hot tub...especially some girl. I would confront him alone about this, I don't care if he or she had clothes its still disrespectful. Do you think he would be confortable if the tables were turned, he catching you in a hot tub with your brother-in-law??? Yeah of course not! Confront your husband about this, but in a low tone and see if you can get an explanation.
2006-10-21 11:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she have a loss?Was there a more appropriate place to "comfort" her?Why were you excluded?You may be right to suspect differently...if he's not communicating in honesty what's the point?What does this woman have to say for herself?Perhaps you should talk to her spouse.Good Luck
2006-10-21 10:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a good explaination to tell u the truth
2006-10-21 10:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by a_montana_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you actually caught them doing something I think you are being insecure. Has your husband ever given you a reason not to trust him in the past?
2006-10-21 10:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy. There are more ways to comfort her. He is cheating with you and it is time for you to divorce him.
2006-10-21 10:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry to much if they were not nude. Keep your eyes open though.
2006-10-21 10:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by trueangel121301 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont no wat he was doin but eitehr make him take a lie detector test or beilieve wat u thought u saw then leave him for someone that apreciates u and there are plenty of other fish in the sea and u will find the right one ... one day.
2006-10-21 10:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How obvious does it have to be? Should he have put a sign around his neck saying "I am cheating, please leave me alone."
2006-10-21 10:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by sdh0407 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋