My wife left me almost 4 months ago. I haven't seen her, but she sometimes calls (blocking her number) to aggravate me. I stopped answering the calls a few weeks ago and filed for divorce. She doesn't know I filed divorce unless she saw her name in the paper (service by publication). Yesterday, she called and told me that she wants a whole list of stuff (that I paid for) and all my savings. She said if she doesn't get her way she will go to the police and tell them I abused her (I never did abuse) and get a restraining order to remove me from my house. The house is paid and in both our names. I paid for the house and everything else. She refused to work and came with zero to her name. We've been married less than 4 years. Can she do this? Any thoughts on what I should do?
2006-10-21 10:46:41 · 15 answers · asked by fatsomoe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I live in Florida. Is it a community property state? I'm told it's a no-faulty divorce state. Whatever that means. I filed myself, so I don't yet have a lawyer. I guess I should find one quickly.
2006-10-21 11:13:00 · update #1
OK you need to do several things. First don't answer her calls. Find out if the state you live is in a community property state. If so get a lawyer quickly because she is going to take half of everything you own, even though you paid for it. Don't give her anything until it is court ordered. Don't worry about the abuse crap. She will have no evidence and if she has been gone for months they will ask her why is she claiming abuse now. If you can tape her conversation the next time she calls and try to get her to repeat her statements. Then contact a lawyer and find out if the tape will be admissible in court, states differ on those laws. Hurry!!!!!
2006-10-21 10:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by ameerahteal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you talk to a divorce lawyer and begin putting money away at Caribbean bank accounts which are completely out of reach of any court. Yes, she can claim half of what you have since it is considered community property, but you can sue her and even have her be put in jail if you can prove that she is acting maliciously. Again, go see a divorce lawyer, but ask for a few referrals first.
Next time, do not marry a gold-digger who brings nothing to the relationship. Stick with women who know the value of a dollar and show it by having professions of their own. Always do your research on a woman before considering her. You may use Zabba People Finder and get a background check on anyone for a few bucks. A prenup. is also helpful.
Keep your head together, do not do anything on impulse, and make informed decisions.
Good luck.
Mr. M on "Wife threatening."
2006-10-21 17:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to the police station and make a police report on the phone calls, this will save your butt in the long run. Get affidavits from everyone that see you leaving in your home. and how long you have been there without her. Tell her to take you to court for the stuff she wants. She left, so the judge wont give her your savings. Make sure you change all the locks on the doors and don't give her a key. If the police see you living there they cant through you out and if she isn't living there then they cant make you move out or let her come home . Its all up to a judge to decide that..SHE MESSED UP DON'T LISTEN TO HER DEMANDS..make sure you make a police report on what she is claiming about abuse..if the police know that she has not been there in sometime then they also know that you was not being abusive to her..how can you abuse her if she isn't there..and if she is talking about the past then its to late she should of done something about it then..go to the police station and make a report..don't call them and ask them to come out..you go to them..
2006-10-21 18:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would text message her and try to get her to confess on what she is saying so you can show them in court. Write down everything she says in a writing tablet and date it so you can show documentation when you go to court. I hate women who lie and say things that are not true. She has to have proof that there was abuse in the relationship so I would not worry about that. She wants to get a restraining order in order for you to get out of the house well she is the one who is gone. Stay put in your home and stop all contact unless you have children. Good luck.
2006-10-21 18:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the lawyer who helped you file for your divorce will know how to keep you from being harrassed by her or the police. Call your attorney right away and report all these details, and save any evidence - she's cutting her own case off at the knees when the divorce comes to trial, so smile, buddy.
2006-10-21 17:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless there has been a report made previously to her leaving then i dont believe that she can cry abuse now i hope when you filed you went for abbandonment that will prove that she left the home first as far as assests go she will be entitled to some of them depending on your state in which you live but if you can prove that she did not work during your breif marriage then she wont get much
2006-10-21 17:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by lisaisfunn1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all..Don't fall for your wife's threat's. CALL YOUR LAWYER NOW !!!..
If there is no kids involved she won't get the house. a judge will probably make you buy her half or her buy your half of whatever the house is worth. Or It will have too be sold.
Have your number changed . But the best advice I can give you, is too call your lawyer and take his advice !!
2006-10-21 18:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, this is my and everymans greatest fear....
Fact is the law is 100% on a womans side and they know it, when men fall into the marriage trap they loose in every way shape and form...
Single men, take heed, THERE IS NO ADVANTAGE WHAT SO EVER IN GETTING MARRIED....marriage is a trap that your lucky to escape from without loosing half and if not all your hard earned money.
Marriage brings out the nature SNAKE in every woman....do not trust any woman and do not get married.
2006-10-21 17:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, take my advice, stay as far away from her as you can,stop talking to her and let the lawers do the work. sounds like shes trying to aggravate you to abuse her, dont let her get to you. if you have done anything in the past that may constitute abuse, let her prove it in a court of law, but right now the best thing to do is keep cool, calm and collective.
2006-10-21 22:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by skidoorider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no she cant do that. you have to tell your lawyer what she is doing and make sure that he knows ever detail. this is hard. i dont know what to say. i am sorry that you have to go through this. i would just make sure that you have PROOF of everything you own. cuz as long as you can proof she has zero to her name. she cant get anything from you.
i wish you the best of luck to you
2006-10-21 17:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋